I met a young lady at work. We've known each other for just over a year now. She is married and so am I. Her husband works at the same place. We both love our spouses and have no major marriage relationship problems. (as far as I know she doesn't) I've met her husband and have been to their house a few times too. I've been married for 13 years and she's been married for about 7 years. We have a lot in common and have become very close friends rather quickly. We both realize and understand how close we've become and there are certain lines that we don't want to cross. We would be foolish to destroy our friendship and our families over a fling. Now she is saying that we need to create space between us because our relationship has become very complicated. She told me that her husband has noticed that she has become a little distant lately. He has noticed that she is happy when she is with me but she gets grumpy and moody when she goes home. She says it's work and family life and stuff like that. So what does it mean when she says our relationship is complicated? I suspect that she is falling for me. Is she falling in love with me? She won't talk about her feelings with me and she tends to hide her emotions too so I can't really read her. I don't want to lose her as my friend because she's the only real friend that I have in my life right now.
Sounds like she's doing the right thing. her obligation is to her husband and even if she IS falling for you, she's right to ask for her space. she needs to do what she can to make sure her marriage stays in tact. and even though you say nothing has happened b/n you guys, there is more to an affair than sex, and she may feel you guys have crossed a boundary. be supportive of giving her her space. you're married. you should understand. think about if your wife had a relationship w/a guy like you have w/her. probably not something you'd be supportive of.
Yeah, it sounds like she's feeling like she gets what she needs from you and not at home, which has probably made her fall in love with you because of you meeting her needs. Personally, I would give her the space she needs. She may be at a cross roads and needs to make a choice whether to stay in a relationship that does not give her what makes her happy or find someone else who does. Being with you probably has caused her to feel like something is missing at home, and she is finally recognizing it. She may end up leaving her hubby in the future because she has gotten a taste of what it's like to feel fulfilled from someone else. However, I would be careful to not be the cause of her leaving him - let her make the decision on her own. Yes, things have become complicated because she receives love from you that she does not get at home. Also, you mentioned that you are married but that this girl is the only real friend you have in your life right now. I think that's sad because your wife ought to be your best friend. Maybe you're not receiving what you need at home either?
Thank you for the comments. I guess I should clarify one thing though. My wife is my best friend. She even knows about this other lady being my friend. This friendship that I have hasn't effected my marriage. I guess that's why I felt surprised when she wanted to "create some space". I've always felt that people should have a "best friend" outside of the marriage relationship that they can go to for their problems as well as their spouse. I just so happens that mine is a woman. Thanks again. - 2 months ago
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My ideal of a first date with someone would have to be us hanging out at an amusement park like six flags or seaside heights and get on rides all night long. then we'd eat at some easy restaurant like mccie ds or taco bell ( my favorite!! ) and then we'd go to his or my house and watch a movie or just hang out.to end the night with a delicious kiss good night!
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
I'm easy going and you don't have to spend a lot of money to hang with me. I'm a very simple date.
(Age:30 to 35)
When: 2 months ago
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