I think I have a huge problem with committing, my whole self to someone. If I like a guy I tend to try to forget it as I think that I won't be able to have him anyway. I have a tendency to feel as though I'm not good enough or unattractive and they wouldn't see anything in the first place. I currently like this guy but I am trying very hard to push it out of my mind, as I think he is not interested. '' MOST MEN IN MY LIFE TEND TO LEAVE'' < that has played a major part in my life and I try not to get to close to guys in general. What is wrong with me how can I make these feelings subside?
What you are going through sounds very similar to what several people in my family go through. It sounds to me like the problem isn't committing so much as your own personal self image and self confidence. You've been rejected in the past, probably by guys, maybe even by a father figure and your scared of getting hurt anymore. As scary as it is though, you have to start letting yourself open up to the idea of commitment. Throughout your life you will have many more failures in different things, but that's just part of life; you deal with it and grow from it. And if you don't start trying to let people in now it's only going to get harder over time to start letting them in later. The longer you wait the harder it gets.
Nothing is wrong with you. if most men in your life tend to leave and you have low self-esteem all these feelings are normal. and I'm not sure there's something you can just "do" to make these feelings "subside." I really think you need to work through it with a counselor. in the mean time, focus on yourself- things you like to do, finding out who you are and what your passions are, etc.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
We would go somewhere that expands our knowledge, maybe an interesting museum art exhibit, or maybe someplace awesome like an arcade and play games and loosen up around each other. I would wear my usual, red windbreaker, white T, jeans and my black shoes. The date would end where I lean in to kiss but move toward her ear and whisper " I had such a fun time tonight" and tell her I'll call her.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 2 months ago
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