He's getting married in a month, do I tell him I think I'm in love with him?

This is a mess situation but I will go against the tide and suggest not telling him your feelings. You can ask him if he really loves his fiance and such but to tell him that you have feelings for him will just make everything worse. It gives him more temptation to cheat (which is not what you need). I don't think that you divulging your feelings will help anything except make a situation more unbearable.

After the wedding I would distance yourself away from him. Love or no you need to respect that he is now married and you CANNOT be the one who is going to break them up. Regardless of how much you think that they aren't meant for each other it is wrong to think that you know what's best for him.

Overall think about this, He is a grown man and has to make his own decisions. If you think that they are complete opposites then that maybe what attracted them to each other and they are still working on being more compatible. That is what relationships are all about! I would seriously distance yourself from them because the closer you are the more you will want to split them up, because by everything you have said, that is what you are indicating. This will overall end bad and you will be blamed by everyone and you won't get what you want.

Sounds like a very stick situation. And chances are, it's not going to end the way you would like. It's not going to turn into a fairy tale. But do yourself a favor and just let him know. That way you can get it off your chest. Just tell him, "I know this probably doesn't mean much to you now, and it's not going to change anything, but I just have to get this off my chest." But like I said, you can't expect anything. And things might get weird between you two after this. But at least this way, you can move on, and stop wondering, "What if?"

Either way, this is gonna be one huge freakin' mess. I can feel the pain already.

I got the following in a chain email, its only a part of it btw:

"Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?, or
Saying nothing and wishing you had?

I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.

If you do, they might break your heart.if you don't, you might break theirs."

I think in a situation like this you should speak up.

You don't think he knows you like him already? He has made his bed - let him sleep in it. Get out of it or you'll become his play toy.

I think you should tell him how you feel, that way he knows, and you'll know how he feels. But don't try to convince him not to get married, that's his choice.

You can tell him, but I must say that you will jeopardies a lot. I think you need to think this through a little more, like A LOT. Would you like someone destroying your wedding day? If he felt that they were wrong for each other I think he would call it off. And as they say opposites attract! And if it doesn't work out, they get a divorce simple. Let him work things out for him self, he is an adult and he has gone this far! And for the 2 of you kissing I think you are ass bad as each other if anything I feel sorry for the girl! I think that in my view, If you can't have him no one can! ''How much is your friendship worth with him''?