Why do some women feel they must hide things?

Hey Friend, This is not a woman or man issue.this is a Cheaters issue! Male or Female, they will turn the table to take the guilt off of them.anything to change the subject. Trust is a special gift that we deal out in life, and I agree, one great big trust killer is a liar. Cheaters have lying down to an art. They will look away, look down, or say why are you so controlling. Their whole game is to make you feel guilt for not trusting them. I have been married to two different times to serial cheaters. Sometimes the lie will come out months later, some comment that rings strange.and pow.it comes to you.Believe me.she will always cheat, because cheaters are selfish.they care who they hurt, how they hurt you or if they hurt you. They only care about their own shallow selfish needs. I have always found myself asking "why didn't you just divorce me?" Give me a chance to be with a man that loves me back. You know why they won't do that, image! They don't want to look bad! They like the comfort of the good , true blue fool that stays with them. Yea that is you and I. I finally found myself and at 48 years of age, finally found a man that has values and loves me. Best of Luck to you! I hope you run as far from her as you can! She will slow bleed your heart. You can do better, you would be amazed at how easy and safe it feels to be with someone that actually doesn't trigger distrust! Good Luck!

Wow. I was doing the exact same things to my bf. It's a long story so I won't get into it. I don't have any advice for you, but If your girlfriend is going thru the same thing I was, then. I could answer a lot of questions you might have. He thought it was serious, and I thought it was serious too. but by the end of the day I thought about my ex a lot. And on my bday, I spent it with my family and my BF, but I was really sad. I wanted my ex there instead. Your Girlfriend made it happen, but I couldn't. We moved in together, and even talked about marriage, etc. But still, every weekend I would make excuses so he would go out with his friends instead. Sometimes he stayed home while Id be out. He found emails, and texts to my ex. And tried confronting me about it. I acted offended, and accused him of being controlling. our fight didn't go anywhere, and just got worst. I knew I was wrong but didn't know what else to say, so I said I'm not going to defend myself to him.
its a really long story, but I realized I was lying to him, and MYSELF that I love him. Everything I wished my ex would have done for me, my Boyfriend did. so it was hard for me to see the truth.
Anyways, like I said, I don't have advice for you, but if you need answers to her behaviors, ask me and I'm sure il know.

Wow, sounds suspect to me. If you are with her and you live together, why would she not want you to share her special night with her? She's not right. Go with your gut. Women sneak around and lie too, it's not just men.

Call her on it. I think that was really rude of her to convince you to stay home when she was celebrating her birthday. WOW.

You should have been there by her side and by the end of the night you should have been introduced to all 70 of those people you didn't know.

Good luck.

Because everyone has been hurt, and had to develop coping mechanisms to keep from being hurt, in the same way, again, everyone hides some things from everyone else. She may be hoping for something with him that she already has with you. I suggest you try to find a copy of Tyler Perry's movie "Why Did I Get Married" and watch it with her. Maybe she will catch on to the idea that she is still looking for what she already has, maybe not.

The fact is, by not asking her, tentatively, why she is including you in the plans and suddenly excluding you from the events, you are probably encouraging her. Let her know how it makes you feel. Don't accuse her of anything, because that is agreeing with the enemy of her soul, and yours. Affirm her, let you know how you feel about her, then let her know she is hurting you by excluding you from part of her life. The idea of a healthy relationship is that she shares in your life, you share in her life and, together, you begin to build a life that you live together. All three are important, but all three require intimacy, trust and faithful cooperation.