Years ago I dated this guy, actually I dated him for 6 years and we were engaged. We broke up because he was a cheater and we just couldn't get a long as a couple. But we did stay friends. About a year after the break up he started dating this girl. They hit it off pretty quickly, and she HATED me. A little over a year after that, his dad died and I had been REALLY close to his dad, so I was heart broken and really wanted to be with the family. At this time she and I got to know each other better and eventually became good friends.
Now I'm stuck in the middle of this horrific predicament. They are getting married soon and I don't know what I should say to her. I know what kind of a guy he is. I was with him for 6 years and on top of that I see the things he still does behind her back, and the way he'll sometimes try to get me to sleep with him again. And yes, her and I are good friends now, but I also know how jealous she is and I know that she would think that I want him back or something. And to clarify before people start jumping to say that I do want him back or even something like I don't want him to be with anyone, that is not AT ALL the case. I want to watch out for her, I just don't know how I should do it. Should I say something to her, or should I just sit back and watch her jump into marriage with him?
If all three of you are friends now than you can not say anything. As bad as you may want, she needs to find things out for her self. If she asks you about him, tell her, but be vague. I promise if you decide to say anything negative about him, she will spill the beans, and all three of you will be in an awkward situation. I have know and heard of several similar situations of people who thought it may be a good idea to butt into a friends relationship, and it almost always ends poorly for someone (and its usually the person in your position.) When my dad was my age, he went through almost the same situation and decided to say something to his friend about his unfaithful, bitch of a girlfriend. The outcome: His best friend married the "wrong" girl and they are still married to this day; and after almost 30 years my dad and his "friend" still haven't spoken to each other.
don't you dare say a word! pick up the phone and call jerry springer. That way you and I, along with the rest of America can watch this marriage unravel on national tv! It would be totally unfair for you alone to have all the fun watching white trash in it's natural habitat! wooo hoo! hey I'll pop us some popcorn, do you like natural or buttery? - j
My ex was the same way I didn't know how to let her know what kinda man he was. and I messaged her in myspace and flat out told her yea she didn't believe me but when he cheated on her it all ended in us being friends.. its a hard place to be in. I understand your looking out for her as I was.. good luck I hope he don't break her heart - 2 months ago
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