Is this horribly wrong of me?

Yes it is wrong, I know I am in the same boat you are, my office manager and I are crazy in love with each other and we are both married. But, it is only human to grow feelings for someone, married or not. Sometimes that is the nature of the beast. I feel horrible at times too, but we are crazy about having this secret relationship. She knows I love her and she loves me, yeah I know, it is not easy, believe me, how I know. Look, regardless, opinions are like assholes, everybody has one, just like everybody has feelings they too can't control. Look, if your happy this way and he is happy with this, make it work. I have, and we haven't even had sex yet. It;s just the way we treat each other that makes us feel both secure in our "secret relationship" Sometimes there are voids that need to be filled, and there is only one certain person that can make you feel the way they do.If you feel like you need him, then keep him, he may feel the same way you do. I am no expert on love, all I know is sometimes you meet the person you destined for at a bad time, that's the nature of the beast, if he leaves his wife then don't let it be your decision, let him bare that decision.Who's to say his wife doesn't know?

Lets say he leaves his wife and commits to you.

Do you think for a second that he won't find another young whipper snapper to have an affair with? Humans just animals are creatures of habits, this trait is deeply lodged in his personality and will re-emerce itself in the future.

When you're marriage you have a responsibility to the other person. This deviation to the marriage rules of monogamy is a sign of lack of discipline and respect for his significant other.

Like many of the other have said, there's nothing healthy about this relationship, even worse. This is your boss! That's 101 things not to do in the office.

You are both at fault but he is more guilty than you. Why was your boss not man enough to respect his wife by remaining faithful? I wouldn't like this guy because he lacks integrity. Anyway, you don't want to encourage him to ruin his life any further: especially if he has children. He is mostly responsible for his own failed marriage. Why did his marriage fall apart in the first place? Is it because of you, or are you just a booty call after his marriage had already fallen apart?

He says he loves you, but I would be skeptical. Plus you don't get to experience what true love really is with him if you stay with him. The 2 of you can't go shopping together or go on dates in public together. The 2 of you can't enjoy sharing the same house or apartment together. You can't wake up late on a lazy weekend (a stress-free weekend) with your sweetheart next to you to say "good morning I love you." And because of that, you can't just make love before you even get out of bed on a lazy weekend, because everything you do must be secret and he can't afford to be gone on a weekend because that is way to suspicious. You can't just come home to relax and cuddle with your sweetheart after work. There are so many blessings that come with a loving relationship that is not secret or stressful. You really are missing out on true love.

Find a real man who has respect for women and who will genuinely love you! This guy does not respect women because he cheats on his wife. If he was a real man he would at least divorce his wife. And I don't think even he knows the blessings that come with a true, loving, honest, relationship.

girl you need to be kicked hard it the butt!
your the reason men become bitter with women! I can't count how many jobs over the years where at work I sat alone at an empty table in the company cafe having lunch, while all the single women would crowd around a bursting table and flirt with the married boss. yet these same women have the nerve to complain they can't find any nice single guys, umm.HELLO did you check the table with available seats and only one guy sitting alone?
women say men are pigs, if that's the case, what are WOMEN?

i sort of know how you feel. I have not had an affair, but my coworker & I have feelings for each other. Even though I feel its wrong at times I also know HE flirts back. I do think about his wife and how she would feel. I am married myself. But in my situation my marriage seems to be rocky. & yes to all you defensive people, I have mentioned counseling, set up dates to go, and it has not gone through. It does not seem important to my husband when I try to talk about our relationship. So what is one to do when THEY really want it to work but the spouse is not workin for it? Yes I have kids and that's why I want my marriage to work and also because I did make a promise. but what else can I do? I have tried all I can do. I go to counseling/ psych doctor myself but no one goes with me. I get the attention and the caring feeling from my coworker who also is in the same situation as me, We have tried to work on our marriages several times even (prior to meeting each other) , but what else can we do when we give our 110% and get no response. remember it takes 2 to tango. don't let everyone blame you.

yes its wrong, and even if he were to leave his wife for u, what makes you think that he won't do to you what he did to his wife

Im sorry. But your the type of girl that ruined it for my family. Seriously you're sick. Maybe You should think of it this way. You're married to a man that you trust and love and some skank comes around and sleeps with him. Or maybe you should think about what it would be like to be one of kids. To look up to your dad and find out he is sleeping with his employee. Everything you know goes down the tube. All. Thanks. To. You. Seriously? How do you sleep at night? Oh wait! You're too busy sleeping with him.

yes, it is imagine you being married to him and he did that to you? ow would you feel? and I will also tell you the truth he is a liar! HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU! because if he was he would not be using you as his mistress he would have left his wife for you a longtime ago. So basically your the other woman and she's the main one! find yourself a man that is actually all yours he can says he's in love with you all he wants and blah, blah, blah, but it's crap. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I hate when guys like this say stuff like that. lemme guess he can't left his wife cause his kids are still young and it will hurt them? that's bull if he says that. Remember you are a very classy lady so find someone that's not married. sleeping with married men is no good. That can also jeopardize your job so bad. because if you wanted to end and he got angry enough he would fire you in a heartbeat

two words: HOME WRECKER. you knew that he's married and you still went along with it. who the hell do you think you are going after someone else's husband. if I was his wife I'd beat the shit out of you, you slut!

ya. not to be offensive to you, but this type of thing ruins families and lives. this just recently happened to my friend. her mom had an affair with her soccer coach, and now her families life is in total turmoil because she just up and left. this just isn't one of those things that is okay to do. sorry.

hell yeah! he's using you big time. get out before you ruin ur self-worth.when people find out ur going to be known as the "whore of the office". have more respect for yourself. its also going to bring bad karma on yourself. do you want ur husband to do the same when you get married? he's not leaving his wife for u.move on! he's probably going to fire you when he's done with you anyways.

can I be honest here!?

hes not going to leave his wife your his bit on the side he is only saying he loves you to keep you around yes you love him but you fall under the mistress category the girl who believes its more than sex when its not !
get out of this it people like you that help ruin marriages it is s wrong and plus do you not deserve to be happy and have someone that can commit 100% to you?

Yes it wrong. He probably will not leave his wife and you are putting yourself in a dangerous position with your job and your coworkers. I doubt your relationship is as big of a secret as you think. Get a new job and end the relationship. Wouldn't you rather have someone that you can be seen in public with? And if things ever did work out between you.wouldn't you always wonder if he was cheating on you.