I was at the mall and I recognized this guy I knew in high school. When I saw him my heart dropped and I was going to say hello but something stopped me. The thing is we were friends in high school and he had a girl friend. One day we were playing around and we ended up kissing. We ended up fooling around for a couple of weeks but then he told his girlfriend after he called me to tell her that nothing was going on between us. I finally convinced her but he ends up telling her. Well they ended up breaking up and we didn't talk because I was upset at him and when we finally talked he said that he couldn't take it and that he wanted to kill himself and that's why he told her. We haven't talked in 3 years but I still have some feelings towards him. So my question is should I talk to him or should I just let it go or will I just make things worse.
Well to be completely honest, you f***ed things up when you decided it was okay to fool around with him, with him having a girlfriend. That's not okay no matter the terms. But the past is the past, your feelings were strong etc, so no point in dwelling in it.
Look 10 years from now, will you regret not trying to reconcile with this guy? Would you regret not talking to him and finding out what if? That's the main thing you need to ask yourself, and then go from there.
Sometimes the past is better left undisturbed, but if you want to reconcile after all of these years, be sure that it won't stir up any trouble for either one of you. Where are you now in life? Where is he in his? Are you both in a strong point in your lives (mentally and emotionally), where you both can manage confronting one another? I only ask because you mentioned how he had suicidal thoughts, I would be cautious not to trigger those feelings again in him.
Personally, UNLESS it will provide closure for BOTH him and you, I probably would leave it be.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
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Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
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