Sometimes when something is bothering me and I keep it to myself, my girlfriend yells at me for being sad and quiet. My reason for keeping it to myself is that I don't want her to yell at me about it. My involvement in the relationship causes me to feel very uncomfortable. I try talking to her about sensitive topics, and I understand that she is uncomfortable about them. At some point, I gave up trying to be comfortable with her, but when something is wrong in my life, she starts to get mad at me. She starts talking to me very rudely like I'm even a person of significance to her. I've thought about breaking up with her, but when we talk about it, she says that I don't give her a chance, when I gave her so many. This happened multiple times. The feelings that I once had with her are starting to deteriorate because of the level of my comfort with her. I want to know how to make this relationship work, or how am I going to break up with her. We broke up multiple times already, but I kept on going back.
It seems as though you are in a very hardworking relationship and you are exhausted from the work, but do not want to quit the job. At the end of the day it comes down to who each of you is as a person. Some people are merely inward and deal with situations by being quiet and meditating, some people are very outward and need to talk it out. When two people with opposite ways of dealing with these situations are in a relationship, things can get confusing and tricky. You may interpret her need to discuss everything as over the top and brash and this makes her feel embarrassed for who she is. She may interpret your need to deal with things quietly as you not trusting her to "open up" to her, which in turn makes you feel hurt and embarrassed about who YOU are. At the end of the day effective communication and acceptance can make it work. If you say, "I'm hurt when you yell at me for not talking about everything to you because it's not that I don't trust you or don't want to open up to you, it is just that this is how I need to deal with my issues and I would appreciate it if you could respect that and support me in ways that don't involve forcing me to talk everything out. I know it helps you to, but it makes me feel worse." If she does not accept that than you have more than a typical communication problem with her. Bottom line you do not deserve to be treated like an insignificant by your girlfriend. If she continues you will just have to break it off, it will be painful and you will have to be straight up and she may not get it at first if she is a bad communicator, but refusing to accept who you are and trying to change you into something you are not will just make you more miserable. Couples should grow together, not manipulate each other.
Have you been with anyone else? Because there are better girls out there. Yeah, most girls don't like it when a guy goes all quiet and sad and won't say what's bugging him, but I really don't think that most girls respond to it by yelling and making the guy feel worse. I think you need someone more sympathetic.
maybe you should be a little more open in your relationship .it also seems like your girlfriend is "wearing the pants" in this relationship hope I helped you
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