If you cheated on your girlfriend but did not want to break up with her, would you tell her?

Yes, because I would rather it came from me then from somebody else, and if I didn't want to break up with her then I didn't mean anything with the girl I cheated on her with. I'm dealing with this right now as I'm wrighting this, I love my girlfriend more than I've ever felt before and I feel like shit right now.

but what's the best way to tell her, should I make her come to my house or should I go to her's?

Not a cut-and-dried and answer.

If you're really sorry that you cheated, you feel guilty, and you're repentant, you should probably say tell her. It would be understandable if you didn't, especially because that kind of information would end up hurting her. But you've also got to consider the possibility that if you don't tell her, she might find out on her own, which would make her even more angry than being honest with her up front.

There are exceptions. You could be dating a woman who would respond, "So not only did you cheat on me, but then you have the nerve to TELL me??!??" If yours is such a case, you should either not cheat, or if you're going to cheat, keep your mouth shut.

Now if you cheated and plan on cheating on her again, or if you're always looking for that on-the-side hookup, then you should just break up with her, because she won't want to stay with you once she finds out, either way. Women who have been around us long enough can usually tell if we're being sincere, and if you tell her you cheated but lie about not wanting to cheat on her again, she'll see right through you. Better to break it off and take ownership -- tell her that you aren't mature enough to stay with one person.

Probably not. It's unnecessary information that will just hurt her.

No. She'll become crazy and jealous and watch over my every move.

Why cheat on a girl who you want to stay with? Tell her, because things like that will find her way to her, karma can be an evil thing. Its best you tell her then her finding out from a third party. However tel her not to get mad because you told her , many guys wouldn't, and reason you did tel her is because you were very sorry for what you did.

Just don't cheat on her again.

tell her because if she finds out on her own it will be bad news for you, plus if you love her why would you do that in the first place? she deserves your honesty even though she doesn't have your faithfulness.

This is a sore subject for me. Dated, 7 years.. He had multiple times of cheating. I did not know until about a week ago.. So, if you are going to cheat on her, you are a piece of dookie! If you can do it, man up and tell her. Hello? Herpes, Aids, other diseases.. Not only that, but she is being faithful, why would you want to hurt someone you love on purpose? Because you have a woody, and you meet a hoe? Tell her. Give her the chance to see if she wants to forgive you. Don't lie to her.

Yea definitely.. Tell her if she just gets all mad about she has a right. You know what I mean....] if you are meant to be and to work it out you will be together and dis will make your relationship stronger. I have been with ma bf for a few years and we both made mistakes cheated and didn't tell and tried to deny even but we were both hurt and finally we talk bout it, you can tell it doesn't bug her or you anymore if you can bring it up and laugh about it...give it some time she mite or mite not be cool with it...at least be honest and tell.

Celticman, that's the kinda thought pattern that leads women to eventually finding out and killing you. Not only have you cheated , you lied...

So you let some random chick takes you girls place, yet you still want her enough to not break up with her? YES TELL HER, SO SHE CAN DUMP YOUR SORRY ASS. She deserves better.