Why is my girlfriend acting weird?

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to your girlfriend, how did you know that everyone had gone home except him? did she let that info slip in the first phone convo? so you call 30 minutes early, no biggie. but then she sounds out of breathe, it would probably raise a confusion in my head a bit, especially her feeling the need to convince you that she had fallen asleep on the couch, but what really would've raised a red flag was her lying about when her ex left? that's pretty suspicious if you ask me. if nothing was going on, she would've left NO need to lie about it. it just doesn't make sense to me.

with her getting lovey dovey on you. and I am not insinuating that your girlfriend is a cheater, but typically, after someone cheats on their significant other, they get very nervous about it, then comes the regret, so from the guilt comes this lovey dovey cover-up to reassure the relationship, like if they assure you they love you, you won't ever suspect that they're f***ing around on you. you get what I'm saying?

I don't know you two personally, so it's impossible for me to make a proper assumption about what may or may not be going on. but from all the shit you've put up with, it's safe to say you love this girl. but the question is, does she love you and ONLY you? You really sound like a lovely guy, you don't deserve some girl that's messing with your head and heart this much. on that note, FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION. Do you think she's cheating on you? Throw away thinking the whole "she seems very very sweet and says she loves me" for one moment, listen to your logic this round. what is your logic mind telling you? Because even though I don't know you two personally, and from an outsiders view, I'm having some intense suspicions about your girlfriend

hmm, okay well first, I want to mention what happened with the 700-mile away ex that was under the impression that they were still together. okay, so you mentioned at the time he didn't know what was wrong with them having sex. you shouldn't have had to clarify that, she should've made that VERY clear before he even showed up, but since that wasn't in her plans, she should've made it crystal clear as soon as he showed up to the house for the weekend . I really cannot grasp how she allowed him to have sex with her? that's so f***ed up on SO many levels. that would've been it for me, I would've long gone told her to f*** off. not trying to condemn or anything, I'm just sitting here with my face like this :O reading what she's done to you throughout this relationship. so okay, back to the story. obviously, the feelings between you two are strong, and you were able to over-look her little rendezvous and forgive her, awesome.

now with her and this OTHER ex who texts everyday. that's awesome you let it go and just overlook it, I would probably be okay with the occasional texting and stuff, but they're texting back and forth daily? I'm sorry, friends or not, they used to have sex. that would NOT be okay with me. by any chance do ever 'lurk' the texts? it might be a good idea to SECRETLY scan through and just see what's being said. especially after summers over and she and him part ways.

so wait, you and her are together. but she gets invited to parties with guys and doesn't bring you along? also, she's out of school for the summer. can't help but wonder why aren't you 700 miles away with her?


It really sounds to me like your girlfriend doesn't fully understand the boundaries of BOYFRIEND;GIRLFRIEND status. such as:
*you don't text daily with a guy, ESPECIALLY when he's an ex boyfriend. um, HELLO!
*you don't let your ex-boyfriend think you're still together, so much to the point that you allow sex to happen
*you don't hide your boyfriend from your family, and let them think you're with someone else. that makes no sense, why would there be a confrontation?
*you don't lie about when your ex-boyfriend left your house, after picking up the phone sounding like you just ran a mile. I'm sorry, fell asleep on the couch.

bear in mind, I'm really not trying to offend you;your girlfriend. I've just really got the impression that she doesn't fully understand the boundaries of girlfriend;boyfriend status. or maybe she does, and doesn't care. you sound absolutely lovely, and you need to make these boundaries very clear to your girlfriend, you don't deserve to be treated this way, bottom line. Right now, she's not acting like a girlfriend at all, she's acting more like a friends-with-benefits

as for the s/n situation, maybe she misunderstood the question and thought you were asking if she had another s/n that she actually uses. so that's not too big a deal to worry about ;) with her and this ex-boyfriend who's finding a way to stay VERY close

look I am really sorry to say this but it seem to me that she is not the kid of person to stik with one person forever I'm really sorry

sounds like she's cheating on you. sorry.

I'll admit that I only read the first few paragraphs to your novel but I had a girlfriend like that once. She treated me like a king when she was around me, never argued, did any and everything for me without asking, cooked for me everyday, bought me stuff, sex all day everyday anytime anywhere. like she was crazy about me. So I dumped her.why?
Because when she was not around me she was just a ho starving for male attention. Doing the same thing for other guys too. she always wanted to lie or omit parts of the truth under the guise of "avoiding confrontation" which in time I discovered was really a big load of crap which really was the fact that she didn't want to be exposed for the fraud she really was. She would never break up with a guy. Only stop calling them after "she woke up and decided" they were no longer together. In the beginning she'd run to me crying about her ex was stalking her so I called the guy and told him they were through. come to find out (from him at least) that he thought they were still together. I still to this day have no idea what the hell she wanted me or why she did so much for me if she wanted to screw and be a servant for everyone else too. some women are just retarded that way and can't stand to spend a minute alone.
so what I'll say is dump the chic if she is making your life way too confusing. don't even offer an explaination or closure. she doesn't deserve it.

Dude are you kidding, what is there to say to that she's been cheating on you is that not obvious, she's still having sex with her ex and prob a ton of other guys, dang, man if I were you I would get out of that relationship asap cause if you don't this girl will eat you alive man, if that was me, I wouldn't have put up with any of that crap if my girlfriend had a ex boyfriend that came to visit her and if I found her with other guys alone in her room, there would be hell to pay. In the end I prob would have cheated on her and broken up with her. But hey that's just me.