and a 9 year old son. My boyfriend doesn't want me to work, says I should stay home and enjoy being with my kids, especially with gas prices and after-school care prices. I get $86 a week in child support for 1 child and since I moved in 2 months ago, he has taken the money and used it. He makes very good money at his job and tells me we don't need the money I would make working. If so, why does he need my $86 a week? Also, he's bought himself several articles of clothing and jewelry, and not once offered to get anything for me. Yes, he pays all the bills and supports me and my daughter, so that said, am I being selfish? I've told him I want to work, even if only part-time.I've advised him that I need to get out more, to socialize and all that as I am not the stay-at-home type, really. I need more that housework to fulfill me, but he pretty much doesn't listen. Any advice?
Get your own bank account and deposit that money in your own account so he can't have it. But also he's a selfish greedy bastard so that's reason enough to leave him. He has no right to steal money from your children.
It actually doesn't sound good. People who try to control your money, even if they are paying the bills, are bad news. You are becoming dependent on him, so what happens if you want to pack up and leave? You have no resources. I get the impression that these decisions were made for you rather than you having equal say in them. Get a job and if you get a bad feeling, leave.
He sounds way too controlling. He's trying to keep you bottled up at home, and, if you do go out, chances are he's with you. If he won't buy you nice things, even though he's paying all the bills, that sounds more like a controlling boyfriend and bad news all around. He's using the fact that you have 2 children against you, saying that you should stay home and be with your kids, but you said your son is 9 and your daughter is 6, which should mean both are in grade school. That leave 8 hours a day that you are at home, alone, with nothing more than housework to keep you entertained. If it was me in your situation, I'd be kicking him to the curb. He's not going to change and start buying you nice things this late in the game.
Was it his idea for you to move in right away? Because if it was, it would definitely point towards controlling boyfriend behavior from the start. He's taking $86 from you on a weekly basis, even though it's your money for your child. The whole thing just screams controlling boyfriend, which also screams RUN! Get out of this situation as fast as possible.
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