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Chances are he has a valid, if only to him, reason for keeping it secret. Ask him about it. Let him know you you feel, but figure that out first. Men typically need to here the important stuff in the first sentence or two, since after that they are distracted, either processing what they have already received, or something else. Don't judge his response, listen and discuss it. Respect him and validate his feelings, even if they don't makes sense to you, they do to him. It could be that helping him process whatever is causing him to want to keep it secret will help him trust you, and your judgment of who it is safe to talk about the relationship with. It is very possible he has been burned by someone before, and that kind of pain has to be processed, not buried or ignored.
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