Ex fiance is pregnant by me, now what?

The person who you should be concerned about hurting is your baby!

If you are no longer in love with the babies mother, if your not willing to accept her for exactly who she is, with the good, bad and indifferent then going back with her isn't the answer.

The answer then would be to be a responsible father who is a positive role model in your child's life. To love and provide for the baby.

The girlfriend of two weeks should not even be an issue, no you don't want to hurt her, you don't have a lot of time invested in that relationship and that means she will get over it rather quickly.

In life we have to put ourselves first and say what do I want because if your miserable over your choice it will affect your child.

For now I think you should stop seeing the girlfriend of two weeks. I would not make any promises to the X-gf who is pregnant. I would simply tell the girlfriend the truth.

My X is pregnant, I don't know what I am going to do, so I need to spend sometime by myself to sort it all out and make a decision on how I want to handle this.

I would tell the preg-girlfriend that you are not making any decisions right now but that no matter what happens you will be there for the baby .To love and support your child. In the meantime I have some thinking to do because it is important to me that I make clear minded decision, not an impulsive decision based on you being pregnant.

Good luck and handle this the mature way. This baby is going to change your life drastically you will no longer be first, your decisions from here on in will be made in consideration of the baby, and how your behavior and choices will affect your child. For the next 20 years you are second to your child, look at all the f-up young people in the world, trust me their parents played a large role in their messed up little lives.

This is not a tough one to answer. It's more like it will be tough for you if you decide to follow my advice.

FIRST - You have to do the right thing. Everything done in the dark will eventually come to the light, and it's worse if it's exposed. You should tell your new girl what's up, especially if you are feeling this new girl.

SECOND - the best thing to do for the baby is be a father to him/her. It has NOTHING to do with being with your ex. That will cause nothing but more stress on yourself, her, and the baby in the future. Spend time with your kid. Pay for things. Go to his/her sporting events, etc. You don't have to be with your ex-fiance to be a good father. My cousin is caught up in something like this and is unhappy. He loves his son, but doesn't love his baby's mama. If you don't want to be with your ex, then you should not feel obligated to. As long as you are doing your job as a MAN and a FATHER, you deserve to have a healthy and happy relationship with the person of your choice.

THIRD - I'm with you about being against an abortion. Whether people will admit it or not, that abortion will be on your minds for the rest of your life. However, the two of you have to discuss the ethics of it all. No one can decided what you should do as far as keeping this child except the two of you. Bottom line.

I hope this helps.

Well you can try finding a way to be friends with her. and even try to persuade your new girl to do the same if all possible. then she will have help with raising your baby. instead of you going through the hassle of paying child support. I remember when I was married my ex wife claimed during the divorce she was pregnant. She said she then had a miscarriage. It is hard to know what to believe. I don't know if she was really pregnant or not. This situation happens to a lot of us.