Obviously if he cheated, he was pretty unhappy with the relationship we had. So why does he keep trying to get me back? What is in it for him, if all we do is hurt each other?
I'm currently in a similar situation. I'm in a pretty rough spot in my life right now, I had been dealing with depression and adhd for a number of years but let my pride get in the way of getting help. I had always used girls/sex in an attempt to curb my depression; but as outlets so often do, it failed to help. I then started dating this girl at the beginning of fall semester, and I've never been happier than I have been with her. if I hadnt screwed up so badly, id be proposing to her soon. things were great and I was doing well in school and everything was going well for me. then the season started to turn, and things slowly started declining in other aspects of my life, aside from the relationship which was still amazing. I suffer from seasonal affect, which is a form of depression based on the weather, and as things kept declining and the weather got worse, I slowly fell deeper into my depression until I got to the point where I really could not pull myself back up. I wound up cheating on her with a girl that meant absolutely nothing to me, a few times, and randomly kissed a few other girls. all this did was further fuel my depression; however, I couldn't pull myself out of the destructive cycle I was in. finally, everything culminated into me currently being a semester away from failing out of a near ivy-league institution, losing my work study job, and nearly losing the girl of my dreams. were currently trying to work through things and there's a lot of fighting, but she knows everything there is to know now.why I didn't, what's wrong in my life, how I feel about her.and I know exactly how she feels.i mean if you have no feelings for this guy, tell him to f*** off and move on, things are through.but if you care about him, tell him to be straight up with you about why he did it, how he feels about you, and what not.if he did it jus for the mere sexual gratification, send him on his way, but if there's a lot more to it than just thinking with his dick, consider giving it a chance
I love this man with all my heart. I gave this guy three years of my life... I can't fathom everything that was going wrong, but I know a lot was because of trust.. which he blamed on himself, because he did a lot of stuff similar to u.... However he doesn't have depression to blame it on. I don't really understand his motives, and basically had to beat the truth out of him, by saying that one of the girls told me everything. Do you think it's wrong to want to know the details? I don't feel like he is - More than a year ago
Question Asker
Genuinely sorry because he cheated with two different girls. one with one girl, twice with the other... he says he was drunk, can that rly be an excuse? - More than a year ago
Answerer
Being drunk isn't an excuse. when it comes to cheating there are no excuses. an excuse implies that the cheater feels there was nothing wrong with what they did. however a reason shows that they understand what they did was wrong and are willing to be accountable for their actions. I don't think its wrong to know the details, because if they don't tell you, you're only going to jump to conclusions on your own, and 9 outa 10 times your mind will make things out to be a lot worse than they actually r - More than a year ago
Answerer
Also, while me and this girl aren't officially together right now,i still feel as though she cheated on me tuesday. she had sex with one of my fraternity brothers. the issues with he and I will be worked out in time; however, I made her tell me every little detail of how it happened, what they did, how it felt, how it compared, etc. it sucked to hear, but its a lot better than sitting there brooding over whether or not you're inadequate. and if you are inadequate its time 2 get the hell outta Dodge - More than a year ago
Question Asker
Thats the craziest thing... he keeps saying that the girls sucked... and that one of them used their teeth while going down on them... so I guess it's just unhappiness with me always asking the nagging questions... which I couldn't help cuzz I was constantly lied to... that really sux to hear about ur farat bro and ur girl... my ex doesn't know that I had to lie about what I supposedly already knew to get him to spill the beans - More than a year ago
Answerer
If he doesn't want you asking the nagging questions, he shouldnt be wantin you back...he broke your heart and your trust..i know from what I'm going through now, those are two things that are hard as hell to fix and you have to desire it like hell to even start making it work...and if he's saying they sucked because their skills were bad, he just wants a good f*** from u... when I cheated, it just didn't feel right, the emotional aspect was off, I hated myself for doing it, etc. he has to truly be srry - More than a year ago
Answerer
For what he did and understand the extent of his actions for him to truly want to change and has to be totally committed to actually changing...and if he loves you, he should have wanted to tell you the truth...every time I got really drunk after the first time I cheated I was an emotional trainwreck..i bawled my eyes out to her telling her how she was too good for me and what not, I just couldn't find the balls to tell her what I did..and I know had I done it myself instead of someone else - More than a year ago
Answerer
That wed be a lot better off right now. you gotta b straight up with this guy..ur in the position of power right now, make demands. make him tell you everything, make him tell you EXACTLY how he feels about you, EXACTLY how he feels about what he did to you, what is he going 2 do 2 change, etc. I mean no matter how much you love him, and no matter how hard it is 2 let go, if he's f***ing w ur head and heart, he needs 2 be out of your life..my girl and I both now if were unfaithful again its over 4 good - More than a year ago
Question Asker
He says he cares about me and still wants to be with me, but when it comes to explaining the details he doesn't want to reveal anything. He makes me sick... Well like I said I basically forced him to tell me without him knowing... So I know the positions, about the kissing and everything, but he didn't readily give this info, he gave it because he thought I already knew. I'm really starting to think he has a psychological problem with the lying... - More than a year ago
Cause its not necessarily because he was unhappy with you. Maybe he love what he had with you but was looking for something missing in another. Or maybe he just wanted the trill. The fact is he did it without thinking what an a-hole he was being and now that he lost you he misses what you afford him. Me you, don't let him back in.
Because he can't stand the fact that you don't want him anymore. Also possibly because the "you don't know what you got til it's gone" scenario. Stand your ground. Good for you =) There are better more reliable fish in the sea.
Thanksgiving is right around the corner and just like the last year and the year before, you will most likely spend it with your family. And just like everyone else, you have a crazy uncle or an...
$20 Amazon Gift Card
Check out the winner of the last contest! Worst Pick Up Lines
Winner received $20 Amazon Gift Card
My ex broke up with me after 8 months because he said he was unhappy with his life, and needed to figure things out on his own (he is 31 and I am 29)....
When someone is on the receiving end of a break up they inevitably want to know, "Are there 'magic' words I can use to get my ex to call me?How to get your ex to call you- What not to say!Believe it...
Currently, the pieces of my heart that have been broken last year have been put together with the glue, tape, and whatever else I could find around. I cried my a*& off and I felt really weak, that's...
Disclaimer: GirlsAskGuys cannot guarantee the accuracy of answers, opinions and advice submitted by members. Please use common sense when following or omitting any content on GirlsAskGuys.com
$20 Amazon Gift Card
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
