Ok I know in relationships girls really hate it when you forget to get them something for whatever ridiculous day it is that you want gifts and affection for. Anniversaries, birthday, holidays, etc. A lot of guys really don't pay that much attention to upcoming holidays and special dates because we really just don't enjoy the gift giving festivals as much as you do. Most guys will probably never miss a superbowl but forget at least one anniversary, for example.
I was tryin to use my man-mind to figure a way around this, instead of actually paying attention to a calendar. What we could do is keep a secret location in the house with pre-purchased gifts for each separate occasion, and then when you girls say 'Honey, did you forget what today is?' we can just smile and say 'Of course not!' and quickly run into our stash, whip out the appropriate box and card, and it's all good.
Only problem is if she finds it she might get mad. But really it's just a storage space for future gifts, and women usually shop in advance too so they must put their stuff somewhere, so I figure if girls can do it so can guys, right?
Is there anything wrong with this?
Update: You guys are right. Man-mind says calendar.
2 months ago
yes you should care enough about the girl to remember her birthday or any other day that's special to her and if you don't you should be able to man up to the fact and apologize and if you don't usually make slip-ups and she won't let it go the one time you do then she has issues and it's not completely your fault. But if you forget every holiday then she has a right to be upset with you.
Absolutely there is something wrong with that! If you can't remember a couple simple dates (especially after a few reminders), then get a calender. The date is not about having a present ready to give them. It's about celebrating the day together and making the girl feel good about it. Set an alarm in your cell phone or something.
Sometimes you can get her things in advance. Like my boyfriend surprised me the other day with a brand new mountain bike and explained that he wanted to give it to me for our 2 year anniversary but our anniversary is in the winter and he wanted me to be able to ride it this summer. Sometimes things like that are ok. But not just having a stash, she'll most likely find it anyways.
The point is not so much the gift, if the point is the gift she is just a gold digger anyway, the point is the thought. You remembering something that is important to us, and knowing us well enough to pick out something we actually like is what really matters. So, in short, no you should not have a stash of gifts to cover your ass, for one thing, people change, something you bought her a year ago may not be appropriate anymore. Styles change, tastes change, people change, it's really about knowing the person and caring enough to remember.
Just put a reminder on your phone so you get reminded a week before, 3 days before & of course on the day its self. If my boyfriend had a stash of pre bought gifts for me I know what I'd be giving him for our anniversary, a punch to the face! IT'S SOO WRONG! hahaha funny idea though :P
That seems kinda insensitive to me. In all honesty it would be much simpler to use a calendar. She won't get mad if she finds a calendar with your anniversaries labeled on it (if it were me, I'd think it was pretty sweet). And we don't shop in advance because we think we're going to forget about something like a birthday or an anniversary, we shop in advance because that's when we have time to go out and actually look for a present.
LOL. Guy, that idea may sound good but it won't get you any points with the girl. If she has to remind you of the date so that you can run to your secret stash then you've missed the point. It's the remembering of the dates that's important, not the gift. That's what gets you the anniversary, birthday, whatever BJ.
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