i have a crush on a guy named andrew and he lives rite by my frend cindy who will be having tons of parties this summer that he'll be at. so we went to the first one yesterday. here's what happened: got there, got in the pool. cindy suggested a game of chicken =D andrew put me on HIS shoulders! we did some games and stuff, nothing too important. then we went downstairs and played spin the bottle. there were only two guys, so my chances with andrew were high. the rules; first time you spun someone, you peck them on the cheek (im only like 13!), the second time you spin them you peck them on the lips. the third time you have a 3 mississippi second kiss, then the 4th is a 10 mississippi second kiss. andrew spun me once and I spun him once so that was 2 pecks on the cheek. and every time he acted like he liked it, which he didn't act like with the other girls. then I spun him once and he spun me once again so that was 2 pecks on the lips, which were amazing of course just because I like him so much! but then I spun him again. I was kidding the whole time about not wanting to kiss him bcuz I didn't want to be obvious that I liked him. then evrybody started messing around and he left for a minute and went into another room to talk to cindy quickly. (she told me about this after he left) he said 'why doesn't kristen want to kiss me' as if he wanted to kiss me, and then she said 'i don't know' and they went back in. next I kissed him, closing my eyes, being my first real lips to lips kiss. we both enjoyed it, I think. everybody counted to 3 slowly, and we pulled away quickly afterwards not to look as if we liked it a lot. but we were both smiling, and unlike anyone else we kissed we didn't wipe it off. andrews friend laughed, noticing that he didn't wipe it off, and andrew pushed him on the shoulder. but he didn't wipe it off. they all know we like each other so they were kidding about us looking great together and stuff. I thought we were really connecting. so I talked to a kid who kept telling me to stop being so dramatic and ask him out, especially because cindy told me she was almost positive he liked me. I think next week at her next party I'll ask him out. i want to start with something like 'did you tell cindy you wanted to kiss me?' but I wanted to know if that was a good idea. maybe I should ask him out straight out. what I need to know is the best approach to ask out someone who you know almost for sure that likes you. help <333 i only have til next week so pleez =D
and btw I texted him today asking him the same thing: did you tell cindy you wanted to kiss me? but he usually doesn't text or answer and this wouldn't be an exception. =( that's why I want to do it in person so he can't just not answer thanks to anybody that helps!
Well, although the thought of rejection may suck. I'd just go ahead and ask him. How was he acting when his friend was bugging him about not wiping it off? Did he appear bashful? Did he get embarrassed?
The bottom line is that the dating game has changed a lot from the traditional sense where the guys are the ones who have to ask. Actually, guys like it when girls ask because it gives them more control over the situation, and they don't have to worry about how you're going to react because the tables are turned. The fact of the matter is that some girls are just hard to read and most guys before approaching a girl they like will size her up a great deal, and try to figure out how she feels about him before they make their move. We want to be almost certain that you like us before we approach you.
The good thing is that you only have a week, so you can't really over-complicated it. What you don't want to do is just wait and wait and wait, and he ends up being shy and you both lose interest because neither one is willing to make a move. Or worse, you just continue to dwell on it but are both too shy to do anything.
The bottom line is that if you like him, ask him. You can sit around and wait, but this is just time you're missing out on being together. On top of that, you have to consider the fact that you're going to feel tense and anxious until you act on your feelings, you'll just run scenarios through your mind all day long about what could be and once you get over the fear of rejection, you realize this is much worse than the rejection itself.
I actually am going to ask a girl out soon, I saw her only a couple of days ago and I like her. So rather than dwell on it, I'm going to act on it. Because, if I just sit here and wait I'll just end up obsessing over it, and in the end regret not asking.
Seriously, what's the worst thing that will happen? He'll say no. That would definitely suck, but I guarantee you, you'll feel better knowing where you stand in the end than if you do now in the face of uncertainty.
Well, first of all, he was kind of embarrassed when his friend was messing around with him, but he can take a joke. and you have so much insight. its amazing how much that helped me! you're right, and I'm almost completely sure I'll ask him out next week when I see him. you're a life saver! thank you so much! - 5 months ago
i think you should do what you said you were going to do.! to me it sounds that if you do this then you could get somewhere.especially if he is honest and tells you the truth. also you might have your friend "SECRETLY" talk to one of the boys there and have him ask andrew if he likes you but you would want cindy to make sure thu boy was alone with andrew so he wouldn't feel embarrassed.! GOOD LUCK.! and let me if you do this and it helps AT ALL.! ive had this happen to me before and it worked so I hope it works for you.! =)
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