So my long time live-in boyfriend thinks I've been overly jealous lately and that I don't trust him. Here's the thing: a couple of weeks ago he went out with his friends, then later when he got home, I noticed some text messages to and from some girl and her number stored in the phone book of his cell, I asked him who the girl was, and he told me it was his friends girlfriend, and that his friend had borrowed his cell to talk to her, he told me to delete the number since he didn't know her and didn't need it. Well I didn't. This last weekend he went to play poker with the guys, and then went out to watch some racing in another town. Well I later found out that he wasn't just with the guys that this ex-gf of his friend's was there for poker and watched the races with them too. When he got home from the races he was talking to this girl on the computer, I asked him why he added her on msn since he didn't know her and wasn't a friend of hers (this weekend was the first time they met, as she lives in the town they went to watch races in). He said she was making a video out of the footage they took of the races for them, and that's why he added her, ok fine. I asked him to not keep her on his msn after the video was made as it bothered me. He said I was being overly jealous and that I should trust him more. I said that it would be easier to trust him if he didn't try to hide the fact that this girl was there with them, and if he would spend some time at home or out with me for once on the weekend. He likes to go dirt biking, and he goes every weekend all day. am I over-reacting? I mean how am I supposed to trust him when he tries to hide it when there are other girls around, he says he doesn't like to tell me because I get so jealous, but this has been a recent thing where I'm finding hard to trust him, and am getting very jealous.
It's normal to be jealous at this type of situation. There's definately something going on, Let him have his space, but if you see him not paying much attention to you and goes on talking with this girl, someplace else instead of the computer, show him you don't need that.
wow,-> people theses days are hard to trust but here's the problem in order for a relationship to work there has to be communication, respect & trust! theses are the key words to a happy relationship! that's 4-sure, take it from a person who always keeps this in mine & when there's problems always try to think before you act or (talk)! that way you can be on-top of things (it's sounds to me that him hiding this always from you has gone very far so in other words you better know right of the bat that there something fishy going on & u'r not going to like it at all so find out because only you should know what's the next step to take !
i understand where you're coming from, I prob would have done the same thing. but snooping is bad! if you go looking for something bad in his cell, you'll prob find it, just because that's where you're mind is. put yourself in his position, and how would you like it if this all happened to you? and it was just an ex of your friend? and he's telling you to delete him off your msn after he's made this video for you, that's kinda rude. i know this is easier said then done, because trust me, I need to work on this same thing!
It's not just easier said then done. Its next to impossible to trust someone when they refuse to be honest with you. I mean seriously what reasons could he possible have to blatantly lie about being with other girls when like I said, he goes out all day with these girls and lies about it to me. - 5 months ago
You sound just like me. So I completely understand you. But the thing about me is that I didn't trust my guy as much as I thought I did. So in your case, just trust him for now. If he gets caught doing anything behind your back then you have all the right to snap at him. For now, just let things be. It will save you the energy. I think you probably get jealous because you really like him a lot and you don't want to loose him. Just trust him. It won't kill you.
We've lived together for like three years now, and until he recently started lying saying he was going out with just the guys, and never being home ever, and then I find out that he's with other girls...thats giving me plenty of reasons not to trust him, since if he's trying to hide that he's out with girls then what else is he hiding. - 5 months ago
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Ohh okay, in that case. Yes, keep an eye watch on him. What an ass. - 5 months ago
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