Should I leave my boyfriend because he doesn't please me in bed?

I agree with what bigguns and gravygirl said. First you have to confront him about it, and find out why. Second, relationships are only as strong as their weakest part, if you are not sexually satisfied what good is a relationship when you're missing one of the most crucial parts?

You've got to find a way to tell him that you NEED oral sex because penetration doesn't do it for you. Be careful though, as he might take this the wrong way and think you're saying he sucks in the sack, which is a blow to any guy's ego.

The bottom line is that you're letting him have sex with you for his pleasure primarily because you don't seem to get much out of it. He should feel obligated to return the favour and please you in turn. If not, then he's being selfish, and if he doesn't actively want to please you, you have to wonder how much he really cares about you.

I'll probably get flak for this because it's a pretty strong argument. Some guys don't like and will never like giving head. The way I see it though is that you're obligated to provide sexual pleasure to your partner. If she wants you to spank her, then spank her. If she likes being tied up, that's just her thing. Nothing should really be weird in the bedroom, and if it is then you have to find some kind of middle ground or the relationship is sure to wither away.

People are just brainwashed to think that you're only supposed to fall in love with the person, and that sex is of lesser importance. Relistically the intentions are good, but this is just stupid and closed-minded in general. The thing is that you need BOTH a physical and mental connection.

Think about it this way, would you generally date someone you don't find attractive? Instinctively the answer is no, so would you then date someone who you aren't sexually compatible with?

The thing is that people think that it is bad to simply end a relationship because of sexual incompatibility. It's not, it's natural. You have to enjoy every aspect of a relationship for it to be a success, and I think that everyone can agree that sex is a big part of the relationship pie. Even if everyone treats it as the elephant in the living room.

I'm guessing that you give or have given oral, or have at least offered to give oral to him? If you are not willing, why would he be? Just a thought.

Here is another thought: What (if any) regular intercourse has ever satisfied or started to satisfy you? Did you tell him during intercourse what position, what speed, what force, what angle, what music, what smell, what words, etc. turn you on the most? Have you ever been satisfied by "regular intercourse"? Ever tried any specially designed toys during "regular intercourse"?

Another thought: If he were to break down and provide oral stimulation, would you or could you coach him through it or feel the need to coach him through it? Some guys have never done it, and don't have the slightest clue what or how to do it. Maybe he is one and doesn't or won't want to admit it? You never know. He could be the cunnilingus king with a little help.

Others have posted some good advice here. They all can help. Don't give anything up to him until he does (good ultimatum). Take a break from it altogether and decide if the sex is more important than how you really feel about him. (Great introspective advice). Hope all this helps. Sex is mucho importante in any intimate relationship, and thankfully your problem and the recognition of the problem has been addressed now rather than years down the road. Good luck to you.

take a break from him. see what's more important for you. the oral sex or the relationship itself.

secondly, you don't wanna seem like oral sex is the reason for leaving him. so don't let him have anything else until he's willing to give. maybe you can still continue the rest of ur relationship. just no sex without oral sex.

I'd try talking to him as much as possible first, especially if everything else is good. Does he give you a reason for not doing it? Are you being clear that you need it? If you still can't get through to him, then yeah, you probably should break up.