me and my boy have been dating for 3 months. I don't know when but close to the very beginning of our relationship I saw some old msgs in his myspace inbox from a girl he had met at a boyscout camp a few summers back. they were saying stuff like oh I want to tackle you onto something soft and saying I love you and stuff. and it was a few months before we started dating. they never dated because she lived far away but in the msgs they had said it would be different if she lived closer. well I got really mad about the msgs when I saw them because he said she was just his cousin when I asked who she was when I first saw her in his top friends. anyways we worked it out. then the next drama event she called while me and my boy were saying our goodbyes and he answered! yes he told her he would call her back but I left, angry. we talked thing out after tears on both ends and yeah. I don't even remember what happened the next time but guess who it had to do with. she keeps getting in the way of our relationship and I don't know what to do. he knows how I feel about her. he never msgs her back when she msgs him on myspace and he never answers when she calls or calls her back she just makes me feel really uncomfortable. I just don't know what to do. I can't help how I feel but I also feel terrible for freaking out on him so many times and still feeling anxious about her. I don't want to hold my feelings down but I don't want to push him away by freaking out too much. I just need help. and also he has really low self esteem and gets down a lot. really down. and I don't know what to say to make it better. I used to like him a ton but I feel like my feelings are fading a little. so how can I kinda reignite my feelings for him and help him with his self esteem and not freak out about the girl anymore. help!
Freaking out would be annoying if it wasn't deserved, but I think you have every right to be upset about her. He's given you reason to have concerns when he lied about it. And If she still messages him and calls, either she is very persistent or he has another way to reach her when you aren't looking. However, if that was the case, why not use the same way for her to reach him and you'd never know? Anyway it doesn't sound like he's told her that's over. Does she sound as if they have talked not long ago, or is she asking why she hasn't heard from him? Maybe there's a clue there. I don't know that much will get re-ignited if he may not have taken care of it entirely. The really down part could also have to do with guilt. On the other hand, 3 months is not long in the grand scheme of things and it can take a person a while to get used to being unavailable.
Okay wow! I'm going to try and help you out okay so just work with me here alright?.I say don't worry about her much she lives far away from where your boyfriend and you stay so don't worry about that.Second have more trust on ur boyfriend he's showing you that he's paying no attention to her by not answering or writing her back. Jelousy or freaking out like that is never good in a relationship so try to work through those feelings and notice how much he cares about you and loves you if he dosint pay attention to that other chick.Now his self esteem tell him about what good qualities he has and tell him what a great boyfriend he is.Think positive because there is nothing worse then a guys dreams or hopes shattterd make him feel speacial even guys need that once and a while.You need to notice what made you so crazy about him in the first place ex.his personality,smile,etc. and notice ur feeling.But if your feeling at the end do drift away there is nothing you can do about it but at least you can say you tried.One more thing girls like that come and go trying to mess up what people got going on so its better to confront ur feeling and see how ull react when some girls around where ya stay try and get him.Its up to you it won't be easy but just think about it and talk to ur boy about it wish you luck!.
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