We miss each other like crazy

Hey, Well I kinda know what your going through. My ex said she still loves me but didn't think we could go back to way things were. This got me contemplating on what could be done to resolve the problem. We were arguing and bickering allot too. While she declined to accept me back I did come up with a pretty good answer.

First of all you need to go back and look at all of the arguments. You really need to find where you were at fault. It doesn't help if you are going to blame the other person so you really need to try and see where you could have done better.

Now you need to see what things he did or initiated. Make a list of some of your pet peeves that you think her can change. Really the #1 reason why people complain and bicker is because they don't communicate enough. Meet up with him and tell him exactly what I told you to do. Share your lists with each other but keep it mature. Make sure that the both of you understand that this isn't to attack either of you but to put both of you on an even playing field.

If you guys are able to keep your cool and listen to each other go ahead and start dating slowly. However there is a trick. You guys need to start over. If you pick up where you left off then yes you will have the same problems after the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship. You need to start dating each other again but this time you guys have more insight to the other person. He needs to be aware of this also. So that means you will have a 1st kiss, and go from there. This also means that any sex (if you have done it with him) needs to be treated like you guys are first going out. So generally speaking don't jump into bed with him the first date (again make him aware of it but be patient with him).

This is the only way you guys can get back together with each other. You do have to be mature about the whole situation and make sure that the other person understands that you aren't trying to punish him or attack him but rather so you guys can understand each other more. Hope this helps you! Wish my girl was as willing as you to see if things would work out.

Wish I knew the answer to this question, I'm currently going through something similar to that I think and haven't a clue sorry if it gets resolved I'll give you the results and suggestions if I have any, sorry.