My guy breaks up with me the same day that we "made love". I asked him how he could do that with me knowing he wasn't in-love with me. His response was that he still loves me and cares for me. I don't feel that loving someone and being in-love with someone is the same. Am I wrong here? I mean I love a lot of people it doesn't mean I am going to have sex with them, I need to be in-love with the person to do that. What is your take on this.
Sounds like he was just trying to get off one more time on your expense. If he is not In-love with you means he's not making love to you. Its just plain old sex. Sounds like a jerk to me. " I love my mother " But I am not going to have sex with her. Did you tell him how you felt about it?
The state of being "in love" is really just a strong infatuation,a powerful feeling of attraction that weakens you when ever your object of affection is part of the situation. It's natures trick of making sure we seek out our counterparts so we can reproduce.
But loving someone is dedication,respect,the willingness to look past the other person's shortcomings and just appreciate the person.
Loving someone involves commitment and patience.
To be "in love" comes naturally from within and can only last so long before loosing intensity,whereas loving someone is something we do and does not always come naturally,it requires maturity and understanding of one's self and can last forever.
I might no longer be in love with a girl, but I might still love her for who she is.
Not really sure on how this helps me. From my understanding your saying that loving someone is better than being in-love with someone? Never heard it put that way before, more like the other way around. But thanks just the same! - 3 months ago
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Put it this way, I love my sister but I am not in love with her. - 3 months ago
do some research on love and you will find out that there are different levels of love. It will help--he sounds like a jerk that wanted to bust one more nut. F%$# him one man's trash is another man's treasure. Sometimes God pushes one man out to make room for someone better--keep that in mind, keep your head up and you will be fine--try to get over him, think of all the f$#@ed up stuff he did to you and how angry you were. Good luck
no your not wrong your right! love and in love are two different things! I love my ex's but I'm not in love with them so therefore id never go near them in that way again! but sex is juts sex to a lot of guys so they can have it without being in love with you and even if there planning on breaking up with you they can still go ahead with sex with you not all guys but most!
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