ok so I love my boyfriend, very much. first love and all. I trust him, as in I know he wouldn't cheat on me., BUT I get paranoid or annoyed at least when chicks are texting him at all times of the night. and he thinks he's smart by sneaking his phone into the washroom or somewhere where I can't see him texting. but I know he is Plus there's this one chick I can't stand and I think its mostly her texting but that's another story). So I said that to him, asked him how he'd like it if I text guys and tried hiding it from him and he said he wouldn't like it, and I asked him to please not hide it because he shouldnt have to if its innocent. so I thought that solved the problem but nope. he's still doing it. am I over reacting? should I say something? let me know what you'd do please. its really hurting me
If texting is all he's doing (i.e. he's not going out without to like the grocery store and coming back two hours later empty handed or with a 1 carton of milk) then I don't think it's something to worry about. I've got some female friends that my girlfriend has never met that I talk to occasionally, usually not texting but in emails and such, but I have no subversive intentions there. He probably has a misguided notion that by trying to hide it from you he's preventing you from freaking out or getting angry, or hell for all you know he's thinking about proposing and asking them for their opinion on how to do it. You really never know, and if he won't tell you really the only thing you can do to assuage your paranoia is to steal his phone and find out what's on it. Not recommended as you may not like what you see (probably for reasons unexpected), but you don't have many other options.
If you trust him I would not let it bother you. My ex used to text 2 girls when we were together and hide it from me cause the girls and I didn't like each other and I was paranoid about it but he is still friends with them both and when I see him out with them it is very obvious there is nothing and was never anything going on with him and either of them. I think he was just struggling with trying to keep his friends because they are important to him but at the same time not hurt me because they were girls, girls I didn't get along with. I think guys think that they are helping the situation by hiding it and don't realize it hurts us more.
But I don't know who these girls are, I haven't met his girl friends he won't tell me who he's texting.. I don't know what to do and I don't want to keep nagging him about it.. I want him to be open with me about everything cuzz he wants to not because I force him.... I always tell him who I talk to and text etc... why can't he do the same - 5 months ago
my boyfriend had a notebook while he was away in afghanistan serving for our country. he says he didn't cheat on me. I asked him if I could read it...
View Answers
We just started going out. But, of course we don't tell it all at first right. But, it seems he's holding back on something. We were talking about...
View Answers
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 5 months ago
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
