Do guys like girls for who they are or for their looks?

At the risk of redundancy, or overkill:

For one thing, they don't know what to look for. While they aren't looking for true beauty, you are precious and adorable, like the treasure in Matthew 13, that is hidden in a field yet, when someone discovers you, they will invest everything they are in you.

If the reference confuses you, read Exodus 19, where God tells Moses He wants Israel to become a kingdom of priests to the nations. In Exodus 20, He speaks the Ten Words to them all, they survive, then they decide its not a good thing and tell Moses to go have his relationship with God, then come back and tell them about it. Which is where most churches are today, if you think about it, with the pastor replacing Moses. Notice, in the Matthew passage, that it is the kingdom of heaven, not the kingdom in heaven. Jesus is talking about the kingdom described to Moses in Exodus 19, which is sometimes called the priesthood of all believers. The problem is, in order to be a Christian, not someone who just calls themselves a Christian, we have to become familiar with the life of Christ and let Him cleanse us so we can truly represent Him, instead of acting like we are practicing a religion equal to all the other religions of the world.

If Christ is alive, which I can vouch for, we need to focus on a relationship with Him, becoming intimate with Him, and letting Him clean us up so we can be intimate with others. Focusing on the physical avoids making the investment to find out, and taking the risk of divulging, what is in the depths of the heart, mind and spirit.

If a guy is worth your time, he will recognize that looks are like happiness, fleeting. What really matters is what is in the depths, which is, apparently, pretty awesome. I mean, God made you. He has provided every breath you have ever taken, with the combination of gases necessary to keep you alive, and probably even thriving ( I have seen someone's lungs stop working because they got the wrong combination). God loves and respects you, so you must be pretty awesome.

The problem is, a lot of men don't realize that physical characteristics and behaviors make up less than 20% of a healthy long-term relationship. Think about it. Everything physical decays, rots, burns or disappears. Looks change, and if the man is only into looks, they will move on. If they only use looks at the beginning of a relationship, how can they receive the reward of surprise and blessing, when the treasure turns out to be more than it first appeared.

Since mental characteristics and behaviors make up around 25% of a healthy long-term relationship, the decisions to take a risk, to commit, to discover and learn mean more than the physical, even in the beginning. They are just harder to discern. Emotional characteristics and behaviors make up around 25% and they are awesome, with investment, risk and rewards getting deeper still. The final, at least 30% of a healthy long-term relationship, is spiritual, where you are open enough to allow the other persons spirit to interact directly with yours. Of course, for this to happen, you have to trust the Holy Spirit to protect and define your spirit, as what it was made to be, with the freedom to be, unprotected by you. If you keep any walls up, you have not achieved spiritual intimacy at the deepest levels, which carries the most wonderful, and awesom rewards, and risks.

The man you are looking for will enjoy looking at you. However, he will enjoy discussing thoughts, sharing feelings and experiencing your spirit even more. In that environment, with God rewarding those who honor Him, you will find love making will reach, as a friend of mine put it, "holy heights" of enjoyment.

Kudos to vXxo0oxXv for coming to that conclusion so young. Most people delude themselves into thinking looks don't matter, largely due to social programming. That being said, looks are not everything, but if you're not attracted to them physically, then all the personality in the world won't matter.

Guys always are ignited by physical attraction. As teens guys are inundated with images of what is accepted as beautiful. But it is not until a guy is 25 or 26 that they have a firm grasp on their specific idea of beautiful, and sometimes they don't act on it until later.

The best thing you can do is not let it bother you, because someone will find you attractive, and you won't have to go through the same nonsense that the girls your talking may go through.

Looks get us interested. Its the personality that hooks us. If one is lacking then we probably won't go out with the person.

A girl must first pass the looks test before I'm interested in learning if she's suitable. If she passes the looks test and she's boring, I'll only have sex with her. If she passes AND she's interesting I consider dating. But that's just me.

half and half, look first

if I dun like the way she look I really dun wanna get to know her
just like shoes if you don't like it you won't buy it.

Everyone has thier own opinion on what they think is attractive. For instance, you may think one guy is hot while another girl may find him not. It's all in perception-- beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And in the long run, guys truly look for a good personality. Yes, it seems they all go for the "so gorgeous" girls out there, but do they ever end up marrying them? No, they just use them for sex because they're hot and easy. One day, you will come across a guy who will think you are so beautiful, and only you.

ok hun . the majority of the time . yea it is about looks but he look at me I'm not very pretty and I have a really nice and cute boyfriend . whoever you like . go for it . there ain't nothing to lose

Just take care of yourself and try to look as best as YOU can, not try to look like somebody else, your friends, Kate Moss. Everyone has a unique beauty that will appeal to certain guys. And any unattractive girl can pretty much look really attractive with the right tools (clothing, makeup, attitude, excersizing). Guys, not so much ;)

After that, it's all about finding the type of guy YOU like and spending time with them. Eventually you'll hook someone special who likes your style (style meaning "the whole package" -- you're his type)

my boyfriend is tall and I think he's incredibly gorgeous, but he always goes for short brunettes (like me). However, some girls might think he looks to scary, or is too pale, or something else. But does it look like I care, or even see those as flaws? He doesn't see my shortness as the "absence of height" -- you get me?

Keep this in mind: Everyone has different opinions about what they find attractive. Even though some guys may not find you attractive, there are other guys out there that may find you to be even more beautiful than some slender, leggy, blonde. So please don't get discouraged, not every guy is into that so called "hot girl". There is someone who is going to think you are the hot one.