I had fallen for my really close friend of 2 years and decided to just keep the feelings in because of various reasons. At the time she had a boyfriend who was a complete asshole and I was her shoulder. They finally broke up recently but they still see each other and went to prom together even after the fact they weren't together.
Dreading that I'd never get to tell her if I let this chance slip by, I told her how I felt/feel about her. I guess she let me down easy; she said she was completely done with relationships for the time being because she was afraid of getting hurt again, but she also said "I'm not saying something won't happen because you never know." In regards to where she and I stood.
It's been 23 days and 4 minutes since then. She and her ex are on even worse terms, they but heads every single time. I keep telling her to just stay away from him if he causes her so much anger, but unforunately he's woven his way into her close circle of friends so its almost near impossible to avoid him if she ever goes out to just chill.
Our relationship hasn't changed. We still talk everyday, every night. We barely spend physical time together anymore but we still text each other and call when we can't, we both have jobs and our circles of friends aren't exactly the same. My friends think she wants me to wait for her but to be honest she never really said she felt the same way, only that she's known that I've had feelings for her for the longest but didn't want to say anything until I told her myself.
With highschool over and done with and us going to different colleges, I feel that I'm losing her. As a friend I just don't want to lose someone who's really changed my life, and as a relationship, well I can't sleep at night thinking about her, hell its 2 AM right now and I have work at 6.
I used to tell myself and my friends that even if she rejected me I'd still rather want her in my life as a friend than not have her at all, but at this point I just don't know what to do. Half my friends tell me I'm pretty much in the friend zone and I should just move on. The other half is telling me to give her time; a commodity I don't have anymore.
She's the only girl who's had me feeling like this, so not only am I losing someone who I can see being in a relationship with, but I'm also losing my best female friend. I don't know what to do or think anymore.
Let go? Or stay and hope she just needs that time?
I think you'll just b hurting more if you wait around, especially if she's got a ex boyfriend in the edge of cutting in again. I think you should move on. Why? Because lifes to short. You did your share of confessing your feelings. Now that she has the chance to too, she doesn't, maybe because she is hurt, but I don't think anyone is good enough to wait around for. My point here is, Move on enough for her to realize that.
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