Do I still love my girlfriend?

YOu know what the problem is - you are at a critical time in your life & you don't know who YOU are and you are sort of taking it out on her. Cut back on the calling & time together - explain to her in advance, have a conversation that you aren't breaking up with her - you just really feel it is important to reach out to other people, make "healthy" relationships with other people, expand your social network, make more friends - honestly, you'll need them in your life as things move along - you need to make them now while you are young because it gets really hard to make friends a little later in life. Also, I hate to say it, but maybe all the waiting for sex is a little much too - you guys have built it up to some sort of symbol of your love - but not being willing to have it after 2 years together - maybe you feel she doesn't love you -although in your mind you know she does. Sex is also an important aspect of a serious, real relationship - and maybe that is frustrating you, too. Maybe now is a good time to go away to college. It will strengthen a good relationship to have a reason to have some time apart - honestly, a lot of my friends have survived a little distance and are better for it now!

It is heartbreaking to hear this but what I am going to say will help you.

You are only 18 it is normal to be sexual and after 2 years to start settling in a relationship and you just sit there in your comfort zone.What you need to do is not leave the Girl cause you obviously have compatible personality and physical chemistry.

You both need to start working on getting your friends back and snap out of this bubble , no couple no matter how much they love each other can live this way. you need to find things to do with your guy friends that will make you miss her at the end of the day same thing for her.

it is nioce that you're families are fun to hang out with make this one day a week thing , Also you need to talk about the sex issue , you are at the peak of your sexuality men between 18 and 25 are in heat all the time. you need to start having some sex to releive the tension ans to stop thinking of other women. If you want to be with this girl then you need to understand this is not a healthy relationship. she needs to hang out with the girls and you with the boys, then family day once a week , then maybe partying with friends once a week then alone time 2 times a week and the rest friends hobbies work anything , don't be like a 60 year old couple as much as you love her if you stay this way you will leave each other or someone will cheat on the other , and then regret it because inside you do love each other but you put yourself in a situation that can never win the monotone old married couple routine.need to change that get a hobby and get some friends and have some sex.

Well, reality sets in. You are at a critical point in your relationship. The infatuation that God used to initiate your relationship is wearing off and you have to decide whether you are going to invest the rest of your self, and your life, in this relationship, or move on. This is where the relationship moves from around half of what a healthy long term relationship requires, which is where you seem to be, to zero or close to a hundred percent.

What makes the difference? God made you to exist in the physical world, with a physical body and physical desires. However, this makes up less than 20% of the person that is you. It also makes up about 12% of a healthy relationship with her, so far, since you haven't had sex yet. It sounds like you have probably invested around 15% of the 25% of you that is emotional, with much of that being invested through infatuation. Spiritually, you have probably invested somewhere around half of your 30% so far, since you are investing so much time together, and you are open to the realities of who each of you really is. Then there is the mental aspect, which is what is going to make the difference. Right now you are somewhat committed, you have taken risks in the past, and are willing to again, so I would say you are around 10-12% of the other 25% of a healthy long-term relationship. This gives you a respectable 51-53% of a healthy long-term relationship, which is impressive for someone so young, today.

Here is what will make the difference. Do you love her? It is a choice, as much as a feeling, both making up 25%. Are you willing to choose to risk committing to her for the rest of your life? If so, you love her. If not, you don't, and never did. What you have experienced so far is the precursor to real, get down and dirty with the other person for life, love.

I have a scenario that might help with the decision: I had a friend at work a few years back who was older than I. He went on vacation with his wife and didn't return to work for several months, during which rumors circulated that his wife had had a stroke. When he returned, he described what life with his wife had become, and I see his experience as a true example of what love is.

His wife had suffered a massive stroke that left her unable to speak, or control her body below the neck. It still functioned in a rudimentary way, but she couldn't control it. At first, she was hoping to die, and it came through in her eyes. She had to be bathed, dressed, diapered, etc. every day. Over time, they both became frustrated. Then he realized that he had cut her out of the equation. He began investing in her. She could use her eyes to respond to questions, so he had to learn how to ask questions she could respond to. He would pick out two outfits and let her choose, by looking at the one she wanted to wear. If she looked up the answer was yes, down meant no. Are you willing to make this kind of commitment with this young lady?

Take a break from her and see how it goes. And by break I don't mean break up, go for a holiday without her. Tell her you need to do the adventure you've always wished to do or whatnot and you need to do it by yourself.

You will miss her so much.