My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months and I know that I love him but I haven't told him yet. I've never told a guy that I love him and I'm really scared to do it. I was really hoping he would say it first, but I'm beginning to think he's not going to. I am his first girlfriend and while he is a really outgoing person, he's told me a number of times that he's really shy when it comes to girls which was pretty obvious when I first met him. A few weeks ago my friend Lauren was visiting and me, my bf, lauren and my other friend Alli and her boyfriend of 8 months were siting around drinking. Lauren then randomly asked Alli if her boyfriend said the three words yet, which of course was awkward but led into a small discussion. I remember at one point we were talking about how a girl may not want to say it first and my boyfriend was really surprised and said, "So, a girl could love her boyfriend and just be too afraid to say it." He was surprised but then we all agreed that guys and girls alike may both have that problem. It hasn't come up again since then. I just feel so afraid, but it's so hard to hold it in. I just want to say it aloud, but for some reason I can't. I don't know what to do.
If he showed surprise, it's because he loves you too. Once a shy guy, always a shy guy at heart. Sometimes what they really need is for something else to say it first. Like something that I've heard my friends doing is saying "I love you" at the end of a phone call and hanging up, and waiting by the phone for him to call back, or the next time they see them and see their reaction. Sometimes it takes longer for them to say it, because guys never like showing how they feel.
I believe I love you should only be said if you truly mean it and feel it. I love my boyfriend, but there are times, he would say, "i love you", but...
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