I posted this question on Cosmopolitan.com and got an answer back from someone that works here. I read some good things about this site so I thought I'd join and maybe put my question here too. You can never have too much advice. :-) Thanks!
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I met this guy in Decemeber and things just automatically clicked between us. Only problem is that he had recently checked out of a 5 year relationship and I'm a year out of my first relationship that lasted 2 years. So we just dated casually. It was great. We saw each other all the time, couldn't stop talking to each other, and then eventually I made the first moves to push it into a casual sex relationship. A couple months later feelings started to get involved and neither one of us are ready for another relationship yet. We agreed to be friends, he cut off the physical stuff, and he decided that when we both were ready and available we could try again. So we still talk all the time and hang out (though not as often) and we're great friends. The only problem is the more I get to know him, the harder I fall for him. He's perfect for me. I've never known someone that just gets me. We just click, I can't really explain it. I am so much in love with him and everyone sees it, except for him. I'm scared. I don't know if I should tell him and I don't want him to feel like I'm trying to rush things, but I can't help the way I feel. Am I being stupid? Should I move on? Or is there a possibility that we'll end up together? I guess I just need advice. Please. Thank you.
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Sounds like he is the right man for you. But do you know how he is feeling about you though? Perhaps he is still hung up on his ex since they'd been out for 5 yrs. So I think it would be good to talk with him and hopefully find out how he is feeling about you, and start from there.
But try not to jump straight into telling him that you love him, as this is probably too intense at this stage and will mostly likely scare him away.
I think for you and him to click so much is a major sign that you're compatible with each other, and to me it does sound like there's a certain degree of emotional attachment from him as well for you to click so well. So there is definitely a possibility that you'll end up together. Hope my advice helped.
First off, don't tell him you are in love with him. It might scare him. I would just ask him if he sees a possible future relationship with you, more than just friends. If he says yes then great, if he says no then you can move on and if he tiptoes around I then you will know that he is still confused and does not know what he is looking for or what he wants. Good luck
What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
Depending on the setting: Start talking about something relevant to where we are, then ask about herself then talk about me a little bit, make a joke, then ask her to go somewhere like Starbucks. If all goes well perhaps ask her out on a date (If all goes reeeally well!!! - I'm a bit shy )
How do they typically respond?
50/50 sometimes good, sometimes bad. Although sometimes they think I'm just being friendly...how do I fix that...
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 2 months ago
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