My Boyfriend Thinks I Deserves Better (Please Help)

Sometimes I think that no matter how much you praise someone, it's how they see themselves that will keep them acting/feeling the same way. I think he's got to find out for himself that he's not such a bad person. He will probably need time to gain his confidence. I agree that it's a great thing that you are there for him and can encourage him, but he needs to come to a point where he stops telling himself those negative things and accepts himself for who he is. Your infinite patience with him will probably help him.

he just needs more love,and attention,that when a guy is asking for more love.

Every now and then you find really talented amazing people who actually have a really low self image. I think that's what makes them keep trying to be talented/amazing/whatever because they always have to prove to themselves they aren't as bad as they think.

If your dude is like that then just keep complimenting him, keep telling him how amazing he is, when he does something awesome let him know, and let him know how ridiculous it is when he makes a self-hating comment. In time, he'll believe you.

Hmmmmm . tell him you like him because of the way he is.
if doesn't work just tell him ok go but I wouldn't go for any other guy. will just keep blaming myself through out my life

Tell him that there's nobody forcing you or making you be with him. You chose to be with him, because that's what make you smile. Not because he had x amount of money, or drove x car, that's materialistic. He makes you smile, that's from his character.

And it kind of seems like he is focusing on his past failures and not his full potential. Like there's a lack of direction. Help him start focusing on what his passions are about life so he's not worrying about how good he is, and he starts making goals to see how great he can become.

You are doing it. You might not know it but that is what he wants to hear. As a guy I think my girl could do better, that is what keeps me trying my hardest to make her the happies woman. Because if a guy thinks you can't than he will give up if he thinks you will never leave no matter what.

I think a lot of girls are in this situation. Chances are they are fishing for compliments, everyone does it. They just want to hear something nice about themselves. Stroke his ego a little (like you are doing) and he will feel better. And if it's a more extreme case where he really does hate himself, he may need to go to a counselor or psychiatrist.

OMG! I have the same problem! but what I did was I said "Sweetheart, I might deserve better but I want you" and he said "I am loser though" me: " Hun,losers are my type" lol I am sorry but just tell him you only want him! it worked for me but I don't know about you!