Hi, I've been struggling with depression for a long time, and I'm finally coming to realize how bad it's become because there's a girl who has liked me for a few years, and I have liked her, but my struggle with depression has kept me from being able to have a relationship with her. I've been on antidepressants, been to the psychologist every week for several years, talked to so many people, etc., and I feel like I'm getting better. I have felt kind of afraid that this girl is not going to be able to handle a relationship with me if we actually do get together, so I think it's been stopping me from making a serious commitment to her. I think she knows I'm scared but she doesn't seem to understand. I've tried to explain to her about going through depression, but she has seemed to take my behavior personally - like I'm rejecting her or something. I just have days when I can barely get out of bed much less see or talk to anyone. We still like each other despite all of the perceived rejection she has experienced from me. I think I'm just concerned that if I give in to her and start a relationship with her that it may not last. I went through that several years ago - fell in love with a woman who pursued me, and then she told me that I had too many problems. So, I've been avoiding committing to this chick, but I can't seem to shake my feelings for her. Should I just tell her I don't want a relationship with her, even if I do - just to make sure neither one of us gets hurt? Or should I just drop my guard and make a commitment to her anyway or is there another solution?
The solution is to tell her and let her make an informed decision whether to love you unconditionally or not. Unconditional love is what you need. You don't need anyone who is not willing to love you for who you are. Don't ever pretend to be something you are not. However, don't let life pass you by. Figure out what makes you happy and pursue that. I'm not sure of the type of depression you are going through, but don't let it get you down. Seek help and try to think positive. Live sweetheart and enjoy life. Look life straight in the eye and ride it like bull you've taken by the horns with strong grip. Fight the depression for your life. Don't let it win you be the winner over your own body and mind. Get some help asap. Take care.
Ok. This is a hard one indeed. So let me get this straight you've been depressed for many years and you've had two women you were seeing but you really like this woman your seeing now. If you like her and you know she likes you try to go to counseling together. If she really likes you then she will go to the end of the world with you. Trust me. A real women will understand your situation and be there for you. Tell her you love her right now today and try your best to make it work. Make it work like your life depended on it.
Make a serious committment to getting better first then once youve done that then you will be free to love her with out any restrictions. Loe is a beautiful thing imbrace it. Don't be afraid take a chance because you only get one life why waste it alone. Go get her!
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