I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, and things have been going great. We love each others company, and we try to spend as much time together as possible. But one thing has been bothering me a lot lately. He gets very jealous and upset if I hang around other guys. So to not make him upset, I have stopped hugging, or even sitting next to another male, whether he's my friend or not. However, he still hangs out with his female friends, and he has quite a few of them. When we're together and hanging out with a large group of friends, he always sits and chats to the girls. But when I do that with my male friends he'll just get jealous and genuinely upset. I just think that this is so unfair! I can't really tell him to stop hanging around other girls, or I'd look like a typical jealous girlfriend. What would you do if your were in my situation, and does anyone else have boyfriends/girlfriends like this?
you are not a typical jealous girlfriend but he is flirting. I'm sorry to say he might also be cheating. when guys cheat or flirt with other girls he assumes his girlfriend is doing the same with guys and gets jealous. he wants his cake and eat it too, but he doesn't want you to do the same. it's a double standard but then again he is a dog. I am not saying all men are dogs but this one takes the cake. if he wants you to stop talking to guys that might flirt then he has to be willing to give up some of his female friends. you can't do all the compromise and stay unhappy cause he gives you nothing in return.
Unless you're flirting with these guys, his reaction is way out of line. I would tell him that and then tell him that he needs to get a handle on that sort of thing.
I would tell him that it gets you upset when he talks to his friends that are girls when you can't talk to your friends that are guys. If he really cares about you he will not think you are a jealous girlfriend. He will understand and either understand how you feel and let you hang around your guy friends or he will quit hanging around his friends that are girls. Try talking through it with him first.
Have you told him how this makes you feel? If not try having a calm conversation with him about it. Remind him that you've already picked him, not one of those other guys, and that your friends are important to you. Also, if he doesn't listen to that or the problem comes up again, tell him that those guys mean the same thing to you as his girl friends mean to him. Nothing more nothing less.
ok, well you see, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months now, and I'm in love with him. I'm comfortable around him, more comfortable around...
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