me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a month now. things we're going well in the beginning, but now i am just confused. he doesn't call me as much as he used to, he calls like every 3 days or so. we barley see each other, even though I make an effort by inviting him to places with me. he says that we don't hang out anymore, but yet he doesn't call me to make plans. my feelings for him are growing stronger everyday,and I am terrified of losing him. HELP PLEASE!
Maybe ask him what he would like to do if he's saying you guys don't hang out anymore. He may feel like the two of you are heading down separate paths - he's doing his thing, and you're doing yours. If he's not willing to do stuff you ask him to do with you, it's probably because he's happy doing his own stuff. If you want to spend time with him, do stuff with him that he's doing - even if it's just hanging out watching tv or playing video games at his house or something that you may not have much interest in doing. If you want him to do stuff with you, you've got to do stuff with him too that he likes to do. So, ask him what he would like to do with you. Good luck! :)
Something tells me you expected to hear a response from a guy. However, I have experienced exactly what you have, so somehow I hope I can help.
Basically, especially at your age (and mine) guys can be REALLY immature. They can lose their feelings quite quickly, or just lose interest. Unfortunately I can't say what is going on, but I can tell you what you can do.
I would honestly say that you should talk to him. It's better to know what is going on than to be left in the dark. You should be direct and straightforward, if he tries to wiggle out of it, be firm. For example if he says: 'We don't hang out anymore'. Say: 'well I've been making all the plans, but you don't seem to be wanting to hang out'. Ask where the relationship is going. I know it's hard, but at least you know now as opposed to watching your feelings get stronger more and more each day.
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