Who do I believe?

well girl all I can say is follow your guts or your heart.

It depends if you trust him. Has he ever been untrustworthy before? Do you think he'll do it again? If you want to forgive him and keep him in your life make sure you are clear that you are mad and not going to put up with something like this happening again. Only you know the full of the situation and his personality, and only you can make the best decision for you.

I think this guy is lying to you, but that's just my personal opinion. I don't know how many situations where I've heard the same story and it was a bunch of B.S. So many guys lie to cover their tracks because they're afraid of your anger or that you'll break up with them if they tell the truth or that they'll get caught messing around with whatever girls they have on the side besides you. In reality, a guy who cheats the first time has already broken his relationship with you and your trust. Unless he has been truly sorry and heartbroken over what he did, this guy is just playing you for a sucker. I think you need to make the decision of whether you can trust him in the future or whether you think he might do it again. You know the old saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." If you feel like you truly can't trust him, I would say, "Dump his ass!" because why be with someone you can't trust? You are worth a whole lot more than that - don't settle for something less!

If you are here to ask this question, it must mean that there are very few people you can actually talk about this or whom are willing to help you. I think you should ask yourself if he is good enough for you, to begin with. You are probably putting up with him because of your son and the father figure that you want him to be for your son.

When the "other woman" comes up to you to fess up, it probably means that she is envious of your relationship with him and wants to break you up so she can get him. You want to give him a reason to stay with you and ignore her (and others)?

Let him know that you will not hesitate to leave him if he does not respect you. But you need to be serious and strong about it. Make sure he knows that you are more than willing to do it, if not for your sake, for your son's sake. Your son does not need a lying, cheating father for a role model. Ignore what other people say.

It was probably hard for him to confess to what he did, but encourage him to be honest with you.

Petty problems are what break people apart. The serious problems bring people together and if there is love, caring, trust, respect, and understanding, there will never be a problem so big that you both won't be able to face and overcome together. When this happens, you will never have to ask yourself who to believe, because you will always believe the person whose love, trust, respect, and understanding you have. Simple as that. Maybe this is a wake-up call for your relationship. Sit down and talk to him about what happened. Be ready to forgive him for being human. And be ready to listen to what he says. Maybe there is something he expects from you and is unable to tell you what it is.

You both need to put pride aside and be true and honest with yourselves. However, if neither is willing to do that, then you might as well just pack up and leave, and take your son with you.

I think that youve been together long enough for him to not have to hide that from you. I say forgive and forget (unless it happens again).