OK, so this sounds really bad. But I swear it's not for selfish or mean reasons.
I'm looking for a wedding gift that will be bad luck and help the marriage end quickly.
Now, I know what you all are thinking. And it's not what you think. I don't hate anyone. I'm not jealous of anyone. And I'm not just a nasty bitch.
The thing is, this couple that I'm friends with is getting married in a couple days. But it is the BIGGEST mistake of both of their lives. They are both pretty young, 21 and 19, so they have so much of their lives ahead of them. And they are just NOT right for each other. I don't even know how to explain it. You know when you are around couples and they interact and you can just tell that they were "meant to be" or "they are totally bad together." It's like that, everyone can sense that about them. But it's not ONLY that, they are also BOTH so unhappy together. But they feel they have to get married now that they have been engaged for 1 1/2 years and have it all planned. No one can seem to convince them not to, even though they have both said that they don't really want to anymore.
So I want to get them something that will give their marriage bad luck so they can just get divorced sooner than later and get back to their lives. It's going to happen, I just want to help make it faster.
I know, I sound crazy, but I swear it's coming from a good place.
That's cool that you are concerned but if the match is really that bad, they will end up getting a divorce on their own. Let's face it, the statistics are against them already with the number of divorces per marriage. Let them make that decision on their own, but make sure that you are there to support them. If they do find out that you are plotting against them, they will blame you for their divorce. Remember when your mom told you not to do something because she said she was wiser and knew better than you did? Wasn't that annoying? Well, you ended up doing it anyway and she was right. But in the back of your head, you learned your lesson much better because it effected you a lot harder than it would if you just took your mom's word for it. This is the same situation. So let them figure it out on their own terms.
Well I am in no way superstitious and so in my opinion a gift that promises bad luck (or even good) wouldn't work.
I think that if you really want to dissuade them from marriage the best bet is to speak to them both separately and tell them what you feel. Be prepared for them to go aheaed with it though because it sounds to me that they are quite stubborn.
I don't really understand where you're coming from in some ways but I accept you're not being nasty.
I hate to say this but perhaps it's just going to have to be a mistake they have to make themselves and they will learn from it. The most you can do is be supportive, which I know is hard when you don't agree with what they're doing.
I hope it works out for the best, whatever that may be.
Well, I doubt a crystal salad bowl will really break them up. :P
But really, you can never tell what goes on in the inside of relationships. I know two people who seem completely wrong for each other and yet, they're together. God only knows why.
But if you really want to do this- hmm. Something controversial, where their values might differ or their feathers might ruffle. Are they of differing religions? How about a giant cross? Does one of them want kids right now, while the other wants to wait? ect.
well, actually, you ARE a nasty bitch if you're trying to make your friends marriage end before it's even begun!
How about being supportive? Who are you to say who's right for each other?
Years ago, my parents were told by everyone they aren't right for each other. they got married when my mother was 21. Now, she's 56 and they are happy together. They are one of the most in love couples I have ever seen in my life. SO mind your own business!
Also, lets say you're right, lets say they're wrong for each other? LET THEM MAKE THE MISTAKE.
Stop being trying to interfere in other peoples lives. how would you like it if they did that to you?
Apparently, YOU are a nasty bitch, and WAY to quick to judge, because you apparently didn't even read what I wrote. THEY DON'T EVEN WANT TO GET MARRIED!!! I explained that there is NO selfishness behind them, and it's NOT just because we as their friends don't think they are right together. THEY DON'T EITHER. I was out looking for some honest help, and you had to just be nasty about it. You could have said what you thought without being such a bitch! - 2 months ago
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And PS I am NOT a nasty bitch. I care about my friends A LOT! - 2 months ago
I don't think you tried to understand what the question asker was really getting at. Calm down lady. They do need to make their own mistakes though. - 2 months ago
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But they ARE getting married.. their choice, right? No one is forcing them? They're getting married. Let them go through with it. Let them make their own mistakes. BE THERE FOR THEM, because let me tell you, if any of my friends tried to ruin my marriage, I would never speak to them again. - 2 months ago
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First of all, thank you for being more civil in this comment. And, actually they feel their parents are forcing them to. They got engaged 1 1/2 years ago, and since have both realized (which they have expressed to us, their friends) that they don't want to anymore. But even though they don't want to, their parents are pushing them to do it because they have put so much time and money into. - 2 months ago
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Okay, well now that is a different thing, I didn't see anywhere in your original question that the parents were pushing them.. still, you're only real option here is to be supportive. They're going to do what they do regardless of what the rest of the world thinks, and apparently regardless of what they really want.. so.. just be there. Express your concerns to them but just be there.
Apologies for my first response. - 2 months ago
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It's OK.
Sometimes when I'm writing and there is so much I want to say, I forget details that are sometimes important. I meant to include that their parents are part of their problem, I just missed it. - 2 months ago
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I don't really know I usually don't plan dates very much because I always ask her where she wants to go. But I guess we would go to dinner then to a movie. I wouldn't dress upcause I don't think any date should be coat and tie. Usually I think a date should end with both people pleased and happy and with soft kiss.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
On the first date probably not that much because I'm a shy guy I really would have to get to know her before I would show my inner self. But mostly I would probably tell her about some of the things that has happened in my past and how my relationships ended. And maybe ask her what she looks for in a guy.
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