How can my boyfriend(Now EX)tell me he loves me everyday, use me,( Money,sex) and now I'm penniless, leave me?

Kelly,

All I can say is I'm sorry about what you have gone through. I can tell by the questions you ask that you're a very sweet lady, who sees the best in people. I do too, and I've had to learn early in life how not be taken advantage of. It's been a real education.

I previously in a profession where I deal with this sort of person every day, and I am soon to be back in that profession.

What I can say, is if you look real carefully from the beginning, there are always signs to a person's true intentions. For example, he was ready to move in after a month, which means he brought it up very early on. Then he was ready to ask for your money to bail him out early on as well.

Trust is a hard thing to develop with someone in a short period of time. You may be able to trust them from arm's length at first, but understand, that's at arm's length, not in your house at three in the morning.

He's a manipulator and a user, and guys like that are bad people to be around. They will come in and do this sort of thing all the time. He planned this from the second he met you, and now he's stating how crazy you are as a way to discredit you, if you were ever to tell the people you mutually know what he did. It puts them in the position of "which side do I pick?"

The best thing you can do, is nurse your wounds, save your money as quickly as possible, and move forward. Maybe even cut off people that seem more enthusiastic about his prescence or when they talk about him. Because he knows how to use people, he can get them to act on his behalf. Wouldn't it be a sad day when an old friend of your's is found rifling around in your jewelry?

The less you give him access, the better. I wouldn't be surprised if this guy tries to patch things up with you several months from now, when he doesn't have a place to stay. He may even give you part of the money he owes you as a sign of good faith. But know that he stole that money, and he may use that against you later.

Just keep him away, as in the further, the better. He's a bad guy through and through.

hi I read ur problem and can understand properly right now you feel totally destroyed but I want to tell you that don't go behind him leave him as he is now and show that you don't have any worry.u dint mention some hidden things about u.but I suggest you to search any other partner now because he will not come to you again he just used you and through you but you don't have to waist ur time for him.Now or after time some when ever you will get a new partner you feel fine and love to enjoy with him its a part of life,u dint do anything wrong and the main thing is that you love him and he use u,So I suggest you to enjoy with other one ur life and don't love him till you are satisfy with him and forget the past.this is difficult to do and understand but you can check you will do the same .if you want more you can contact to me on mobile or id or write a email me

look such things happened to me too,look what you gotta do is to get him back,you say ur sorry for everything,once his back you stick it to him and get ur revenge ,

Not everyone is destined to go through this. I'm sorry it had to be you. Besides paying lip service regarding his professed love for you, did he ever invest anything in the relationship? From what you have written, it doesn't seem like it.

He made you for a mark right from the beginning. Within 1 month, this guy had moved in? That is where it started to go wrong. He moved in with you, not the other way around. That tells me he needed a sugar mama and he found one in you. Then you continued to invest money in him while he didn't invest anything in you. Once you were broke, it was time to move on.

Please learn from this cautionary tale. This has been one expensive lesson for you but don't let it take you down.

Rise above.

Good luck!