Doesn't want to break up 'NOW'? What is she trying to say?

She could be doing something else, which is reacting to what you said for reasons of pride? You know the classic breaking up when the dumper says: well we should break up and the dumpee says: yeah, I completely agree, in fact I was going to do it myself sometime soon! That's silly, and everyone knows it.

Or, of course, she could be saying it cause she truly means it.

However, what really gets to me is why she is calling all the shots?! Why does she determine when you do or do not split up? Why is she making you wait and sweat while she determines how your relationship is going to pan out?! That sounds a bit one-sided if you ask me, especially considering you guys are BOTH in a relationship.

Honestly, it sounds like she is taking you a tad for granted here. She should be wanting to tell you her day (I do with my friends, or past boyfriends, I would probably even got to the extent of telling them what time I ate and the ingredients!) Also, she should be DESPERATE to see you and missing you terribly! I know if I were her I would be wanting to make a date asap!

Therefore, the whole: I don't want to break up.now, sounds like she is feeling like she is taking you for granted or feeling you'll always be there till she can make up her mind. I really think you should challenge her about this and stop asking her about her day etc. Let her run a bit! Make her realise what an amazing guy you are, and how you SHOULD be treated!

Hope this somehow helps, although I'm as baffled as you are!

Long distance relationships are very hard and both of you need to want the same thing out of it. I have no doubts that you don't love your girlfriend, but her you have to wonder? Is she really making an effort to stay in contact or show you how she feels about what she wants or are you doing all the work? I know you said she doesn't communicate well, but it sounds like she isn't making any effort at all. If you or even her are questioning whether you should be together you definitely won't make this long distance relationship last. My advice be totally honest to her about how you feel and if she still loves you and wants this to work she will make more of an effort, so your not doubting your relationship. If you confront her and she has doubts sorry just move on she doesn't want that kind of relationship. Good luck hope I helped!

I've been in a long distance relationship, and have been the "secretive" one. I have to say its not a good sign. Basically she's keeping these little details from you because she either thinks you'll be upset because what she's doing may be disrespectful to your relationship.or she's actually done something the would break your trust. I'm not trying to be completley negative, but I think your young and you should prepare yourself for a break up.If she didn't immediatly say that she wants to work on communitcating with you and is commited to being positive and making it work, it'll be over pretty soon. Literally I was in the same situation, and unfortunatly I was younger and afraid to tell the guy how I really felt. That it was too hard for me to be physically away from him. It ended badly

Maybe she needs time to think, if you said "I don't know how much longer I can go on for" to her first then maybe she thought you are thinking about breaking up. probably that made her upset and she said something like that to get you back
why do guys always think about the worst things
but then again every girl is different, she might mean something else

well "anonymous user",
your in a rather confusing relationship
from what I've read it truly shows how much you do love her
but in my opinion communication along with honesty are the key ingredients in a good relationship
and it doesn't exactly sound although there is a whole lot of that going on
i mean long distance relationships are extremely tough as it is,
but it can't just be one person trying
you can't build a strong relationship if only one heart is set on it
if she's keeping things from you it might be time to re-evaluate the situation
plus the whole deal with her saying she doesn't want to break up "now" holds reason to question why your still in the relationship if she's just going to keep you until something better comes along
you never know who your going to meet
maybe its time to branch out and start meeting girls closer to where you live


-jess-

basically I think you are making the context more bigger than it is. that future is dim so you nor she can tell it but what she is saying that she wants to share the present with you NOW! and in long distance relationships they tend to get shakey but you have to always remember why you are in them for and the emotion between you and her. you say she is a kept to herself person, then nibbling for answers is not going to make her answer it is just going to push her away because trust is the key.
just a thought!

I personally only read your title. From what it sounded like to me, she wants you to "WAIT" for her to find a new guy and be her #2 to be her backup per say should this new guy not work out. A lot of females are doing this nowadays and it's sad, and very dirty in my opinion. IF this is what you think after my advice RUN and don't look back my friend. Drop the Clutch bang gears and get the Heck outta there!