I need help, this is hurting.

Ok, here it is, it seems like she is changing way to fast. It seems fishy o me. Do you kno if she is blowing you off to chill with some one else. If she is to bizzy for you, make yourself to bizzy for her. Or juss let her kno that you feel like your changing and that you guys need some space and "YOU" need some time to think. What she is doing is wrong and it is hurting you. You shouldnt be letting yourself get hurt. I'm not telling you to hurt her in the way she hurt you I'm juss telling you to think about it. ok = (

I know this is going to sound hard and maybe even harsh. But I think you should stop calling her. I think you need to pull away completely and see what happens.

Before you say: but you don't have any clue what it's like having your heart ripped out of you etc. I completely and utterly do, and I was such an idiot because I clinged. I was so upset that the person would walk away that I clinged with all my life, and you know what happened? They just get sick of you and walk away.

If life (to do with relationships) has taught me anything, it is that the more you hold onto something, the more likely it is to go away. You have to take yourself out of this intense cycle that you're going through and look at the bigger picture. I know if I were you I'd hate to hear this advice, so much so that I'd probably get angry. I'm really sorry if this is so. I know she is your life, and you adore her more than anything (and she's lucky to have that), but in a relationship there are two people. You have clearly shown you adore her, but she needs to show she adores you too, and refusing your calls or being busy is not one of them. Think about it, in the grand scheme of things, the person who you end up with is someone who adores you!

There could be millions of reasons why she is acting in this way, and I don't know her so I can't say what any of them are. However, you need to see this from a detached point of view. She isn't calling you, and is refusing to take your calls.

To answer your question of 'am I being clingy'? The answer is yes. Like the affection thing, girls (or clearly her and me at times) hate it when we're being suffocated by guys who are being too clingy or too affectionate. I know it puts me off guys! From your quote, it sounds like you're pissing her off. You don't want to do this. So, seriously, as much as you love her, just pull away if you want the relationship to last. Otherwise, she will just get sick of you and end it. I promise you, if you pull away, she won't know what hit her. Allow her to miss you. As I read once: 'How can someone miss you if you're already there?'

I really really really hope this heps in some way or another and I haven't hurt you. I just don't want to see a nice guy like yourself who just adores his girlfriend to go through the heartbreak that I had to.

she might just want space, (pms?) so wait a little while and if she's still ignoring you try talking to her again. maybe ask her if there's something wrong and even if she says no, make absolutely sure it's really nothing. if she keeps hurting you then the relationship might not even be worth it but you have to decide that on your own without other people's advice.

All the clingy shit the other guy said is a load of bull.
There's something going on right now. Either:

A. There's problems in her life (family,social,work,ect.) that she's trying to get sorted out that have nothing to do with you.

or

B. She's just not that into you anymore. I know it sucks but sometimes you just have to deal with reality and move on.

Try to confront her about it IN-PERSON and not through this emotion-less text/im garbage. If she doesn't give you a clear-cut answer I would try bringing up that the relationship isn't working out. If she really still wants to be with you this will cause her to go into panic-mode and do whatever she can to save the relationship. If not she'll do nothing and let you continue since it's what she's been trying to achieve all along but never could say.

Just remember, you deserve better. There's plenty of other girls out there that would LOVE to be with you.

It's a clingy/needy thing because the instant gratification of her acknowledgment of you is expected on her part to give you satisfaction by giving you attention when you want it, or after you give and expect in return.

And someone once said "It's the one who gives and doesn't expect in return who is the most happy, because he already got what he wanted, which was to give."

Now if someone gives back, it's nice, but it isn't expected. That's the discipline of giving/helping/ anything like that.

And now when you doing all the giving and it's become expected of her to give back, it eventually gets to a point where she doesn't feel like giving back just yet. And then if you keep giving it's starts to push her away. And if she is trying to get some space for herself and you start to invade it, you have become an enemy to yourself in a way. You come to a point where you've gotten too nervous about everything and it doesn't help bring a positive energy to the relationship. But neither of you are really in the wrong. There isn't the right kind of communication taking place here. And if you do something to make her feel guilty it'll push her away more.

I think you two should spend less time together but make the time you do spend together more memorable and fun. And don't worry so much about the time that you don't spend together and start to build trust in one another again.

You don't want to do things to spite one another. That's where trust starts to break down. And this is where you're going to have to have an adult conversation and try to see if you both can be honest with one another and not judge one another for what you both want out of the relationship. Like you may see her as perfect for you, but that doesn't make her a perfect person. She's human like you and I, we're not perfect. And you're going to have to be the bigger person and put yourself in her shoes and try to understand her if she is going to be honest and try to feel how she's feeling, or else it'll be a waste of time talking to her because your not going to understand and it'll drive your relationship apart more and instead of gaining trust, you'll lose it. Now it's going to take a little bit of time for her to put herself in your position because she is pulling away; she is confused. she might not even know what's going on but the chemistry of the relationship has changed. The flirting has gone to nervous tension and predictable, unwanted actions. Taking away from the intimacy of the relationship and replacing it with distance. Even though the love is still there, the chemistry has changed and you got to work on getting it back. Or it's going to put more distance between you.