Am I ever going to get a commitment out of him?

So as I understand it, he still has the girlfriend around?

Either way you answer that, it doesn't really matter.

No, you will never get a real relationship with this guy. He loves you, but not enough, he cares for you, but not enough.

He knew you waited on the sidelines for him, and with that, most guys feel they have control over the girl. I won't say he reached the same conclusion, but I would not be surprised if later on in life he admitted to it.

He never had to abuse you because he always had that control, or so he felt. Or maybe you felt he had a type of control over you. I'd say he has something over you if you are willing to relocate across the country for him.

Most young guys have the same reaction when they have this type of situation with a girl. That is, the kind of relationship where she will do anything he wants. They sit back and let you simmer, until it becomes too much and then they spring out a surprise. Maybe it's a weird request, but it alludes to an impending commitment. Or they take the physical part of the relationship to the next level, which most girls believe to a way to land a commitment. Again, I'm not saying you felt this, but it is the typical response.

Even if you didn't come to that conclusion, you stuck around, and that is what sealed his thoughts.

You have done everything this guy has wished or requested. It's admirable, and I wish I had a girl like that. But he never saw this thing with you as a serious relationship, and that's why he's folded in the final hour.

The best thing you can do, is stop paying him attention. Don't go out of your way to ignore him, that would be too obvious. But, don't give me the same access, both socially and intimately.

One of two things will happen. He'll either snap to, and realize he does want you. Or, he'll blow off with some other gal, and then you'll know just how much he thought of you.

Don't keep your hopes up, and if it ends badly, please don't let this guy hurt you. He's not worth it.