My boyfriend and I have been intimate for a year or so now. We really enjoy each others company. I am aware that love is a take all or nothing situation, he does have faults as do I. My fear is that our age will limit our future together. If I commit to him for a long term relationship and things don't work out I will be devastated. I have had too many sour relationships and I don't see this one being sour but how do I know it is safe. It has taken me almost a 6 months to come to grips with the idea that I might actually love this man. He is a great guy, he respects me, he caters to me and he has wanted to be in a committed relationship with me from the beginning it was me that wanted no more than a physical relationship. Was I wrong for making him wait? I wanted to be sure that he really wanted to be with me. And he does, but what happens now? We talk about the future and children, but is he serious or is he saying things he thinks I want to hear?
I think he is doing both of saying things you want to hear and being serious. If he has been with you this long, he definitely isn't there trying to waste your time nor hurt you.
I know with that age gap though, your ages will truly stand out. & you will have people against it. Say in some time later he wants kids. How much of a problem will that be for you. How bad will he really want kids? Will he leave you if you are unable to bear children? Really think about future.
It sounds like you two really care for each other. So I'd say its at least worth a try. His minimum age is 22.I guess a guy could be serious around that age.
Its always harder on an older female, in my opinion. Mainly because the male is suppose to be the head of household. & at his current age he still has some mistakes to make. So try to be as understanding as possible.
Remember at all times that you decided on this knowing the age difference. If you can conquer these feats then you should be fine.
Trust him. If you want to spend the rest of your life with him you'll have to trust him. you shouldn't second guess on if he is being serious or telling you what you want to hear. if you both really love each other there will be no question. Go for it! Better to loved and lost then to not have loved at all.
that is really great! I believe that love isn't based on age, close or far, but what the two parties put into their relationship on a constant basis. I think that if this was just for the fun, he would have hit the road. If you two really get along, great friends, etc. I say why not? If on the other hand, you truly have some doubts, just keep going slow and see if you can work out. It sounds terrific and I wish the best.
Well, I don't know how safe it is to commit. He's younger so he might not want to have children quite yet but since you're older you might feel like the clock is ticking. I don't mean that in a negative way lol. If your futures are compatible then go for it! Love each other and enjoy life together.
Hi! So I like a guy who is 2.3 years younger (I will be 25 he will be 23). It’s not as if it would influence my decision, but do you think such an age...
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