You hear all these tales of women going after the bad guy then getting hurt? I just would like to understand why women do this to them selves? and what constitutes a bad guy?
I think it depends on your definition of a bad guy. Like the stereotypical one that's basically a player and always getting into trouble, I'm definitely not interested in that. But I do tend to like the ones that are very hard to get to know and understand, and they do make bad decisions sometimes but not because they're trying to be 'cool.' I guess it could be because of the challenge like some people said, but I think it's also the mystery of never knowing what they're thinking, or what they're going to do next. :]
Okay, some girls think the bad boy image is very attractive. I think it's because they have an "I can fix him" mentality and every girl loves a good challenge.
I'll admit it I go for the bad boy too. It's basically what Nutz76 said. We like the challenge and we like it when you choose us over the other 3 girls on speed dial. I go for bad boys when I'm looking for a good time and someone to just enjoy myself with. I would never try to make a serious relationship with a typical bad boy because he's already a player and isn't going to change anytime soon. When you get attached to a bad boy that's when your emotions sky rocket and you get hurt when he decides to talk to some other girl.
I think its the classic case of wanting what everyone else wants, or wanting what is bad for you. I don't fully understand why women tend to go after the guys they know isn't good for them.
Maybe they want a short term snub. Maybe they want a sense of achievement for getting something they thought that they could not. Maybe they feel a sense of security. Maybe they want the feeling of other girls being jealous.
Truly, their choice isn't going to be a logical one, but what ever the case, I would advise being your self.
I had a female almost turn me into one of those bad guys. I mean I went bad for awhile because I thought that's what female liked, but in the end It just wasn't my character to be that way. They seemed to take interest to my nonchalant attitude, and wanted to learn more about me.
It's not about being bad or treating women like crap, it's about being a challenge. Also, women like men that other women want--this is called pre selection. They hate it logically, but emotionally that's what they respond to. This is why men that have 3 girls on speed dial can get other women more easily. They know if they don't placate him he'll drop them for someone else at the drop of a hat.
Basically the "bad boy" just behaves like woman that's in high demand. Those types of women drop men for trivial things because they know they can get another man in no time flat, or already have others vying for their attention. This is why exceptionally beautiful women often treat men horribly. Don't believe me? Just look at some of the women hater threads on here about women that snub men or won't give them a chance. That behavior is rampant in society these days, and I've found it to be doubly so amongst the exceptionally beautify females.
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