I've been living with my boyfriend for 7 months now. He's a wonderful guy and I love him to death. We get along great, but I want more sex than he does.It's been slowing down gradually. He's usually "not in the mood". Sometimes, I feel like I'm not appreciated or wanted. Why? Would it be a good idea to lay it off and see how long he can go without it?
thats one way to go.but he could be stressed at work or something could be on his mind.talk to him and see if he opens up.if not try to seduce him one night and have some fun and take control of him.once you guys are done having fun.have a chat with him and ask him why.or what's wrong with him.see if he opens up then.good luck.
Could be he's going through a lot of tension in his life.try and see if you can find out what is bothering him before you start any experiment like that!
You know.I read everyone else's answers first.and though they all give great advice.I'm looking at your picture here, and I have to say.Seduce the man. After 7 months.things can sometimes just get stale. Add some spice. You are a beautiful woman. He probably just needs to be reminded how lucky of a man he is. Buy you some saucy.and I do mean saucy lingerie.set up some romantic dinner.candles.bubble bath.bondage.whatever. Give that man a night he won't forget. Then do it again. Do this for about a week. Seduce that boy every night with something hot and sexy. Make his mind start thinking about you and sex like it used to. Trust me.it will get to the point where he will start getting anxious to come home to you again. Leave him naughty messages on his voice mail. Seduce that boy.
You are a gorgeous woman.remind that man how lucky he is to have you.
If you're living together then he doesn't really have the opportunity to hide anything from you. If he's been less and less "in the mood" lately it's probably because of stress he's been enduring at work. The best thing you can do right now is be sure you don't add to the stress yourself and try to help him relieve it in non-sexual ways. Be sure you're communicating openly with each other and that he's not going through some crisis right now that he doesn't want to tell you about.
Aside from all that, yeah. Just lay off for a bit and make sure he's comfortable.
I think you should talk to him about why he isn't wanting sex. Tell him how it makes you feel - like he doesn't want you or appreciate you, etc. If a guy is not in the mood, there could be several reasons, so I wouldn't jump to conclusions without finding out for sure. Also, make sure you don't beat yourself up about it. If you can talk it out, that would be best.
Talk to him about it that you need more sex. Ask what you can do to help him get into "the mood." Do it in a way that says "what can I do" to get your horny rather then attacking his horny level. This way you protect his ego and doesn't make him defensive.
If you just avoid telling him and hinting around the bottom line which is lack of sex, it'll turn into a passive aggressive blow up.
You should talk to him about it to find out if your sex drive is higher than his. I have been in several relationships like this and if you don't talk to him he will not know there is a problem. I have found that it can be quite difficult to carry on a relationship with someone with a low sex drive, but if it is average you should be good, you might have to take care of some of your own needs, but if you love him you should be willing to sacrifice.
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