I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. We've had many problems along the way. Last week I finally decided I had enough and broke up with him. He begged me to take him back and that he would change. I gave in but have taken things slowly. The thing is I started liking someone at work. Well, I would say it's more like lust because I like him by his looks and he intrigues me. I have never even spoken to him. But I want to pursue him and if things go right I would totally agree to date him. I feel bad doing this to my boyfriend but it's just that he has really disappointed me. So at this point it's kind of like he's a back up plan in case things with the guy at work don't work out.as in he isn't interested.
Definitely feel bad. Charma is going to work in the worst way. You need to be honest with your boyfriend. Do not use either of them as a backup. You need to break up with your boyfriend and find out what you really want. I had that experience one time. And trust me in the end if you continue to do things like this, the tables will soon turn and one day you'll find yourself in the position your boyfriend is currently. Also, keep in mind.its better that you let your boyfriend know you aren't ready yet because later it will hurt him even more than it would now.that and you might realize when you break up with him that you do want to be with him.take time to find out what you want out of both relationships.are you staying with him because you want someone in case the other doesn't wk out? than if so, than you need to def. break up now.why break his heart.at least you can have the pride to know you did the right thing before things got way too deep.
Dump you boyfriend and make yourself available completely to other men. That is the only right thing to do. You are only back with your boyfriend because you feel sorry for him - women always do this! A man wouldn't take us back because he felt sorry for us - believe it!
Clearly you are looking for another relationship in life that is as you put it "intriguing" (the word that you used to describe the new guy).
It is the right thing to do. You don't need a back up plan. You need to do the right thing.
Hmmm.this truly sounds like what I just went through. It's been three days, and everyday he asks me to take him back, he will change, he is the only one who has to change, leaves me notes, and he has this big vacation all planned around for me. It was to be a surprise.
When I talk to him and tell him point blank situations, he says that is not so. My difference of course, we are in a house lease. Anyway, understanding your feelings, but not understanding exactly why you took him back, I would say for you to be honest with him, tell him that you were wrong to come back, that your heart is not there but you want him to go forward and be able to find that heart he can share. Yes, he will be upset, but then after thinking he will realize that at least you were honest with him. Then and only then, should you pursue this other relationship. Good Luck!
your not it happens, but your boyfriend and most of the people will think you are. think about it this way would you rather be in a relationship that has potential and that you know how its(cuz from what I see your boyfriend is your safe spot) or do you rather be in a relationship that might be short but full of fun? I think you shouldn't hold your boyfriend down because it isn't fair to him either, if what he wants isn't what you want give yourself some time. As for this guy go for it why not your only young once, this guy is for you a sort of fantasy that until you don't have you won't get over it. so even if you go back with your boyfriend your gonna wonder what would have happen with this guy or you'll probably do it and then not only would people think ur a bitch but you'll be a cheater.
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