Hi everyone, I feel as if I'm at my wits end with this situation-- and now I don't know what to think please help and answer my question. A couple of weeks back I posted a question on here about a situation with me and my ex. A quick recap for you all, we all went out in a big group and some of my ex's(split up year and half ago-his choice, although it wasn't over anything major) workmates who I had never met before were with us. The one he is closest to seemed to know who I was and asked me if I still had feelings for my ex, I told him yes(I was a bit tipsy, not normally this honest with people I just met).
I asked him how he knew who I was and he said that my ex had told him about me months ago and had mentioned I was going out with them that night. He then later went on to tell me that my ex can't bear to see me with anyone else and that I need to talk to him about it but I would have to be the one to initiate the conversation, as apparently my ex got jealous when another one of his work mates was joking around with me, I've noticed before he gets a bit funny when I just have a laugh with other guys.I, and a gd few of our friends still think there is still feelings between us because of the things he does( I'd be here forever if I listed everything, this has been happening for a good while now.
On that night we went out a few of us got separated as we missed our bus and he phoned 3 times to see where we were and kept asking if I was ok( I was perfectly safe I was with 5 other people!). When I walked through the door he gave me a huge hug like he hadn't seen me for months. He spent the whole night around me and kept hugging me and was stood there holding my hand. The next day he text me and said hope you had good night and thanks for coming.
But now something seems wrong, a couple of days after the txt I emailed him just a general one about what a good night it was and asked what time he got home--he didn't reply and I didn't think that much of it at first but a couple of days ago I broke my phone and lost my numbers and messaged everyone on facebook asking them to give me their numbers, and although he has been online as there's new activity on his facebook page he again has ignored it. A few of us went out at the weekend just for drinks and he said he was busy. I know that he probably could have been but with these 3 incidents together I can't help feeling he might be trying to avoid me. My ex is a shy and rather private person and I can;t help wondering if his workmate has gone back and told him about the conversation we had and which HE brought up and is upset with me for some reason,
I still have feelings for him and have been trying to pluck up the courage to tell him and ask him how he really feels, but now I'm scared its all been ruined. I really really don't know what to do next, should I leave it a few more days or should I message him and ask him if in some way I have upset him. please any advice would be great
Sorry I didn't see this before but, I would talk with him, if God hasn't already resolved this. The most likely scenario is that one of his co workers kidded him about calling you three times, etc. and he feels self conscious, considering you are his ex. Talk to him and see if he is willing to give it another try. If not, grieve the lost hopes and dreams, so any man in your future won't have to suffer from whatever protective mechanisms you might develop because of him.
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