What I found on my boyfriend's computer...

If you were to ask him about this, what would it do? What would you gain?

Im guessing that this would just piss him off,

and the information is not really threatening to your relationship.

ignore it.

i believe if you bring it up he will feel like you destroyed his privacy. also, whose to say that his parents didn't search that stuff? can you imagine bringing it up and having him freak out saying it wasnt him!? I would just make sure your supportive, you talk, and your there for him and try to let it go (what you found) some guys have wondered if they are gay (myself included) because I want to "feel normal" and justify that I am "normal" although no guys would ever admit it, because that's not the macho thing to do. but he either knows he likes men or likes women or both, and you may or may not be able to tell that, only time will tell.

Keep it inside. One of the worst things you can do to a guy is invade his private life. Everyone has secrets that they choose not to share with the outside world let alone their intimate relationship. One time a girl that I was dating found out about a log that I had on my computer. Since I'm posting this anonymously then I don't mind telling what I was keeping secret. I had a log of every girl I ever dated or met online without actually meeting in person. There was a time stamp along with links to a database hidden on a server somewhere in the cyber world where I kept all the serious data of who I thought was a scam and who was legit. The girl that I was dating was under the potential scam section. She tracked down that there was a file that she thought had every e-mail ever exchanged between the two of us, actually she was right but I never told her how right she really was.

Okay by now you have already figured out that I have trust issues. Well after being scammed twice in the same year, you would be more careful of who you meet online. I do a lot of online dating and the log I created along with the database shows how close I am to being right as to which dating websites have the most scams running. Pretty much all of them have some sort of scam going on but you would need a keen eye to figure out what is a scam and who is really telling the truth.

Anyways, this girl I was seeing demanded I show her everything I had on her. She even tried to have the courts settle this. She lost since I formatted my hard drive, shredded all the evidence and burned it. She never thought to make a copy of everything I had on her before telling me what she saw so I easily won the case in court. Oh get this, I'm no idiot. There is a backup of everything somewhere out there on this planet but since this girl isn't that much of a computer genius like myself, she never thought to go looking for it.

NO, do not bring it up. It is an invasion of his privacy - even if it was accidental. Just file this information in the back of your head. If you really like him then you don't need to bring it us - it could really embarass him.

WOW! I really like this question. I wouldn't confront him directly. I would make it an indirect approach, like while you two are watching television, and you see a guy on the television screen, say "Isn't he cute?" in this girly voice. Don't say "He's cute, what do you think?" That would seem to suspicious, then see what his response is. You could be as surprised as seeing thoughts of homosexualtity on his computer. I really don't know what to tell you though. It seems very sad when someone you love may have feelings for someone else. Most likely if he is having "gay" thoughts, most likely he likes a guy friend. Watch out!

If I were you I wouldn't tell him I know be honest but that was his private stuff he wouldn't want you searching through his computer like that it's like searching through someone's phone I mean it really wasn't a big deal to you but it may be a lack of trust to him and it is great that the stuff made you love him more that's awesome but do you really want to sit him down and be like so honey I was searching through the recent history on your computer and I found some things about depression, and porn, and also fear of being gay is there anything you want to talk to me about. It would be awkward for you and him.