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I don't like the feeling.

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flowerbeauty21 (Age:18 to 24)     When: A month ago
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I've talked to my boyfriend about his past relationships and he told me he had three girlfriends; one of them was a fling. the other he doesn't remember and the last one before me was a serious relationship he had with his ex for two years. I asked him if he had sex with her and he said "of course, we were together for two years." (Now that was five years ago he was with his ex.)
When he told me that, it felt like someone stabbed me in the stomach. I didn't like the feeling, and I wish I never asked him. I don't like the fact that he had sex with someone. I feel different with him than my last boyfriend. Every time I see my boyfriend, I feel like smacking him for that, and I get this feeling in the pit of my stomach. How come I feel this way? we have been together for two months now.
hes like the perfect man or something. He's my prince charming.
But can someone please explain why I feel this way. Anyone had the same situation?

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ionlife
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ionlife (Age:36 to 45)      When: A month ago
He is your prince charming who has a kink in his armor because you assumed that since he is the perfect guy that perhaps he would have saved himself for his one and only princess.

As for why you feel like smacking him whenever you see him, I think your the only individual who would know why you feel this way and while it may be initial reaction, I think you need to drop the resentment you may harbor for this situation. If he is truly your prince charming then you need to simply accept it and continue making it the best relationship.

. and in the future, please don't ask questions of a guy if you don't want to know the truth. :)
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Doyle
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Doyle (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
With him saying it in such a way that he is almost bragging is wrong. In my previous relationship the same happened, except I was the one that had sex before. I have told her what had happened from the start and I could see she didn't like it at all, and I would have felt the same way. But I wasn't bragging about it. I'm actually ashamed because I'm one of those guys that feel to make love with someone should be in marriage. Whenever my ex told me about the fun times she had with an ex would feel my blood boiling and me just getting mad, but then I sat down and thought. She may have done whatever with them, she is with me now. She is in love with me and chooses me above the how many millions of people over the world. All you have to do is decide whether he cares that much for you. If he is truthful, and does care for you a great deal I say just talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. From there on things will work out.

Best of luck!

Ciao Ciao
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jbone79
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jbone79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: A month ago
2 words. Jealousy and Insecurity. It's ok to have the feelings you have. It's how you act upon them that makes the difference. People are adults, and they have a past. So do you. To hold him accountable for things he has done with other people in his past is really unreasonable. It's not fair to him for you to be selfish and make him feel guilty for having a normal healthy sexual relationship with someone he was with at the time. So, you can either get over it, accept that he's yours and be the girlfriend that this prince charming deserves, or you can walk away and find someone else. it's your choice. I would say honestly, don't worry about it. What does it matter. and if you are the overly jealous and competitive type, then you should find someone who is a virgin. lol and good luck with that! - j
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oshay83
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oshay83 (Age:Under 18)      When: A month ago
You are scared that might happen to you, don let scare you. He is just being honest that what happens in relationships. You should always trust you feeling they are never wrong. You are in control of your body and you want to go were you want to
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jemma
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jemma (Age:25 to 29)      When: A month ago
i think you are kinda crazy for be angry about the fact he slept with a past girlfriend of two years- obviously he would have, anyone would have, but I also understand what your feeling. Its only because you like him so much, it like makes you angry to think about anyone else having that part of him too, its something you can never get back. I felt that way about my boyfriend as a teenager when I dumped him, but we stayed friends and started dating other ppl, but when I found out he lost his virginity to this other girl- I was infuriated (in my mind that was mine, he was mine) So it was kinda like a betrayal even though we were not together at all. So strangely enough we got back together 2yrs later and have been together for the last three years, 'I am no longer angry he had sex with someone else, but I do hate the girl he had sex with. We're territorial sometimes I think, so don't worry about feeling this way- its a little crazy, but also a little more normal than you'd expect:)
cheers
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Wisegirl47 (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
You're jealous that you're not the only one he's been with, it's a completely natural instinct. I felt the same way except it was slightly different because it's my gay best friend so 1) we've never been together, and 2) I just got so mad he was still hanging out with his ex and that was the night I realized how much I really. liked? (for lack of a better term) him. I hated him for like three days, but in the end you can't hate someone you truly love forever.
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italianbabi4894
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italianbabi4894 (Age:Under 18)      When: A month ago
ohhh I know what your feeling.
I've felt the same way MANYY MANY times with my boyfriend.
we went through the same thing.
most likely because
your getting that jealous kind of feeling of why wasn't I first?
and dunt feel offended, wen I started to become offended when my boyfriend talked about other girls like his exes and how they made him happy, it really got him mad because he wanted to forget about the past.

i don't think there's anything to be worried about.
hes obviously moved on and that was a pretty good long time ago.
just show him you're there for him and your way betta then that other girl that lost a great guy that you now have

;)
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