Husband and girls who flirt with him?

What's going on in your husband's head is that he is a MAN. Don't worry, I have the same issue(s). I love my wife dearly. She's the mother of my two beautiful girls, and I would never, ever want to hurt them or her. But I have a number of female friends, and it's not my fault that some of them are hot. (One is actually blindingly beautiful, but I would never say that to her, because I wouldn't want to disrespect my wife, or her).

Nevertheless, I am 35, and I have to say that it's nice once in a while to have a glass of wine and talk to a nice lady, without the aura of pursuit that was all too commonly attached to such behavior in my 20s. That's what it's called flirting and not cheating.

On the other hand, as far as some of his "stories" go, I wonder. I sincerely doubt that many girls would "stare blatantly". It's been my experience that your species doesn't do this, even if the guy is an Adonis; most of you are more refined than this.

Guys (like me) on the other hand will stare; we can't help it. It's hard-wired into our behavior. If you've got a nice butt, I am not going to be able "not to look". That doesn't mean I am going to be rude or boorish, but it does mean I am not blind (or dead) yet.

Think of it this way, if this helps: You ladies make us glad to be men. You all are like sweet smelling roses in an otherwise, dreary, cold, lonely place. And sometimes, it's good that a man remembers that his wife is his prized, rose-patch.

You two have been married for a little while now, and from what you are telling me, it does not sound like your husband has been unfaithful, or that he wants to be.

What it does sound like, is that your husband is like every other person out there, and that he likes to get his ego stroked every now and then.

You are his wife, so really, you have to love him and think that he is the greatest thing since sliced bread. But the women that he talks to, and that flirt with him, give him the feeling that he is still desireable, that he is still attractive, and that he is still wanted (your opinion here doesn't count, you HAVE to think these things).

Honestly, I don't think that he wants to get with any of these women, or that he loves you any less. Your husband would probably freak out if any of these women made any type of real move on him. But their innocent flirting, and attraction lets him know that he still has it, and I think that every man (and every woman) really needs to know that (after all, most women get hit on no matter where they go, so they are constantly reminded of it, men have to work a little harder to get the attention).

I think the best answer you can give him the next time that he starts to talk to you about one of his 'encounters' is: "That's because I have an incredibly attractive and sexy man, but I can tell you that none of those women know how to drive you crazy like I do." It will drive him nuts, I promise (this is why he married you after all, and not them.)