she used 2 show her feelings for me all the time.she would IM me the second I got on the computer.she used to tell me she loved me out of nowhere at random moments but now she doesn't say it at all unless I say it first.she just doesn't show it the way she used to.we've only been dating about 2 months but I love her dearly and I show her all the time so she's always reassured but lately I don't know.any ideas?
You see me and my fiance have never understood this. Why is it that this happens to a lot of relationships? I was friends with my fiance for two years, have dated him for a little over a year and lived with him for another and this "honeymoon" stage of ours has never faded. When we're around a group of people they always think we've just started dating. We're so comfortable and in love. We have this really strong mental and physical bond that we feed regularly, this is why I think it hasn't faded like that.
Maybe you should try opening up completely to form this mental bond. It started when we told each other really f***ed up secrets of our past. and I don't mean just secrets you'd tell someone when they ask you what your biggest secret is. We tell each other everything. So much so that it feels he holds a part of my mental state, he knows the things I know and sees the things I see. We are one.
I think this is beautiful. I like you alot. - 3 months ago
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Exactly when we started dating we were kinda like that...but now I just canttell anymore because she doesn't show it alot...idk maybe I should just talk 2 her - 3 months ago
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Just letting you know that a relationship like this does exist. Don't settle for less especially in a life long partner :D And especially don't let anyone tell you that it gets cold and old over time because it definitely doesn't have to be that way. ^_^
communication is the key to a happy relationship - 3 months ago
Good for you! it is incredible to see that you have done what most people do not do, and that is tell each other EVERYTHING and they either stay or walk. sounds like youve really got something there, congrats! - 3 months ago
hmm well I think maybe you should do something that would blow her away. something really romantic that would make her realize that she has something really special right in front of her.
Ive known her for about 8 months...at first she just had a crush on me but we ended up friends...after being friends for a while I ended up fallin for her and I asked her out.. - 3 months ago
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Ok knowing her for 8 months and dating her for two is quite quick to say "I love you". If it is true love it could be you have reached a plateau. How is your relationship outside of the IM and I love Yous? - 3 months ago
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Our relationship is good outside of that...we have a lot of fun together and get along regularly so there isn't a lot of fighting - 3 months ago
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That's good. It sounds as though it's just that the newness of it all is fading. It's like when you get a new game or a new cell phone. You get excited and want to learn it quickly. Once you have done so you still like it but you don't fuss over it as much. Make sense? Honeymoon stages are fun but once they are over and done with the real stuff come out. - 3 months ago
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Ok that makes sense..i never thought of it that way...thanks a lot for the help I really appreciate it - 3 months ago
Thats not true. "It's like when you get a new game or a new cell phone." We're not talking about material items That are exactly what they are until the end of time where the only way they can change is if you break them. Humans are different, they grow, they learn, their essence takes new shapes, they are a representation of life. If you truly loved the person, this would never get old. You learn something new everyday, all you need is communication to express life and love,for years and years - 3 months ago
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Oh I'm so sorry. It's like when you meet someone new (let's say a friend). Things are exciting...it's not to say they won't be down the road. But often times it's never the same as it was when you first met the person. My goodness. Semantics lady. - 3 months ago
One of my favorite quotes of all time is "You can't love someone who kisses your ass." This might blow your mind, It blew mine when I figured it out, but showing a girl your affection every minute of every day is not a good way to keep a girl. Think about it. Girls can go nearly anywhere, a bar, a beach, a mall, Take no money with them and still get food, drinks, clothing because guys will give it to them in hopes she will pay attention to them. Most of the time the girl takes the item an runs. Girls don't want guys who will fall over for them, if you dote on her every minute of every day, then she will place you in that category and lose attraction for you, and worse, keep you as her own personal credit card to get her what she wants. her behavior suggests that she saw you as the prize for the beginning, and that's good, that's what you want, but being overly affectionate towards her may have made her change her mind and now your becoming a boy toy. Stop doting on her so much and make her earn the love you have for her. Its the only way to salvage this, though I'm afraid you might be too late.
Its two months in, and you are telling her that you love her. That is never good because at that stage you two are still all giddy and happy about just having another person to talk to, the bad habits and the demons that you both have haven't even started coming out yet. Its when those demons appear that you find out whether or not you love a person. Anyone can make a relationship work for three months, after that, then you know you have something.
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