Girls...how much care is too much care

It sounds like you're giving just the right amount. Let's say she texts you once every 4 hours. If you don't hear from her in like 6 - 8 hours, I'd drop her a line.

Also, you may want to be a little more bold and say something like, "I'm sure it's too soon now but when you're ready, I don't think you'll have any problem finding a new boyfriend. I know I'd be lining up for that job if you were accepting applications!" Or something like that but maybe not as cheesy...something that is true and heartfelt but in a funny way. That way, if she's interested she can be like, "really, you would?" but if she's not she can be like, "ha ha, you're so sweet" and play it off like no big deal.