Is it time to end the relationship?

When a girl becomes super defensive about cheating and something going on behind the scenes of a relationship.. it often means that they are guilty of it and are trying to pawn off the blame on someone else. Long standing relationships often fall to ruin during certain points in our lives because we all grow in different directions.

The girl you met and loved once was different from who she is now, this is true. You have also changed, whether you realize it or not. (whether it is for the good or the bad.. only you know that).

You need to take all of this in and think about it seriously. Talk it over with her as well, but make sure you know what you want to say. If you want to work things out, try.. but if not, and this is an on going problem, and her new behavior is unacceptable. Then break it off before you hurt each other more.

It is best for a quick clean break, than to have it linger and cause further emotional damage.

You didn't create a monster. She is just showing you her true colors. Do you really think things will get better if you stay? Don't fool yourself, if she has meltdowns now, the will certainly get more progressive through the years!

Talk about a toxic relationship.

Hun, you can't marry someone who doesn't trust you, as trust is the cornerstone of a relationship. Also, I have found most times, people who accuse their mates of cheating, are generally the one having the affair.

That, or they have been burned in the past and are are bitter and angry, assuming all men/women are like their callous ex.

Either way, this girl has issues and needs professional help--you cannot help her. You cannot be made to feel blame for what she may or may not do, either.

She is a grown woman and has to come to grips with her own demons before it is too late --she has to do it for herself as much as for you.

Let her know that you will be a friend, but you can't be with her until she gets serious help, so you can have a healthy and loving relationship with mutual respect and trust., otherwise you are doing you both a disservice

Also let her know that once you break up, what you will or will not do with someone else is none of her concern. If she is so afraid you will find someone better, she needs to agree to therapy and straighten up.

The answer here is obvious, thing is, do you have the strength to take that step and leave, no matter what she threatens..

Maybe she's so hesitant because she's cheating on you!!! You need to tell her you are afraid about the relationship and tell her if she was interested in someone else, you'd tell her it wasn't working out because it's unfair to you and then ask her to tell you honestly and if so it's her decision on whether she wants to change. If not, it's time to break up with her.

LOOK...you can't save her!! It is ok to care but not to the point that is not good for YOU. You need to communicate a little better. Talk to her and tell her how you feel, that her not spending time with you or making time for you upsets you and unless things change you will have to part. Give her an ultimatum. There are certain things you expect out of a relationship and they just need to be there or the two of you have nothing to go on. The sex is one of them. If she is not having sex with you then she is either having it with someone else or is just not all that into you anymore. That will need to be worked on as well. Girls at a young age don't want it as much as guys but they should still please their man or there is just no point. Communicate communicate communicate...don't hint around about how you feel...say it out right be honest upfront...in a kind way...you can still be friends just not boyfriend and girlfriend.

You are definitely in a tough spot. On top of your own feelings, you're probably hesitant to make a move for fear of her hurting herself. In a sense, you are trapped because you care.

It's possible that this is just a bad phase in your relationship and you'll both work out your own busy schedules/stress and get through it naturally.

It's possible, however, that this is a sign of what's to come and it's good to recognize it before you invest more time in a dead-end relationship.

I would talk to her about your feelings and stress the importance of what you think despite her unstable emotional history. When you tell her what's on your mind, expect that she'll cry, throw a tantrum here and there, shut down briefly, etc. When this happens - STAY CALM, STAY STRONG. Simply remind her that you love her and you don't want to see this relationship end but some things will need to change. Come up with a few ways you can improve the relationship and ask her to do the same.

Again, she will get hysterical but if you can keep calm (don't get mad yourself and feed into those hysterics) and stick to your guns, you should be able to have a healthy, meaningful conversation which is the beginning to work these things out.

Good luck!