I'm talking about the big "L". Being in love, not just caring for someone. Are you saving those 3 words for the right person and the right moment, or do you not care either way?
A lot of people I know just say "i love you" to everyone! It is very sad to me that people are taking the value away from it. What are your thoughts?
I will only say I love you when I truly mean it. For instance, I said to my boyfriend after we'd been dating for several months (and knew each other for a year beforehand). I said it with great difficulty the first time, because I never said I love you to someone outside my family before. I'll only say it when I'm actually feeling it and he's the same way. It actually took him about a week after I said it for him to be able to actually say it (he already showed it). I do think that a lot of people over use these three words, in this day and life though. People will only be together for about a month at the most but they say I love you in that time. Not many people seem to remember the weight those words actually carry. The emotion they are supposed to express. Its sad, quite frankly :(
Aw! that's what I'm talking about! now when you find your true love it will be sooo much more powerful when you say it! you are awesome. - 2 months ago
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Thanks but I regretted why I didn't say it back - 2 months ago
i have told boyfriend before I loved them because I thought I did, but now I have a boyfriend I have been with for six month and have not said it once, because we are waiting, plus I want it to mean something, not just words
There are too many different kinds of love for them to all be a big deal.
I say it to girls I work with when I don't really mean it, cus in reality I can't stand most of them. But it's just my way of being nice and getting along. Plus I only say it when they say it first and it's more in a joking manner.
I say it to my best friends because I really do love them, but it's the way that you say it to your family. You mean it, but it's not a huge deal. Obviously, you can't live without the love of your family and friends, but it doesn't make you feel scared when you say it.
I don't say it to guys that I'm "romantically interested" in unless I mean it with all my heart. I feel like once you say "I love you" to them it makes you vulnerable and they could choose to use that against you if they wanted. So I have to really trust them before I'll let them know what's in my heart. So far in my life there have only been two guys that I have felt this for and fortunately I've been able to tell them both. "I love you" is a big deal when it's that kind of love.
You're soo right about the value part. Everybody says it now 'a days so I think when my future boyfriend finally says it to me it will have less of an impact. I've never had a boyfriend, but my friends say I love you all the time so I feel like even though I'm single I still have a lot of people that love me anyway, thus reducing the value of when my boyfriend says it.
I know! I think the same thing goes for sex as well...(for the more promiscuous type) by the time they get to their husband, it has just become meaningless and casual. - 2 months ago
Well with friends, a lot of us will say "I love you" and I just say it back because I really do love my friends. I know that's different, just wanted to mention it. But I do hate when people are in relationships for a really short time and they start throwing those words around, until they break up a few weeks later. I've only seriously said that to one guy, though I've had a few say it to me. All I replied to the other guys was "No you don't." I only say it when I really truly believe it, and I only accept it when I've seen that they know pretty much everything about me and still care.
I would agree- love is a very strong word so should only be implied seriously. I actually feel quite strongly about this 'issue' : I don't say love unless I truly mean it and will often get angry if someone [I havn't known for too long] says 'I love you' to me. I only take and give the word 'love' when I feel it's being seriously implied. Thanks for bringing this up!
I know! Like if you have been dating a guy for a week and he says I love you...
I have always felt strongly about this. all of my previous boyfriends have been quick to say it except for one. We dated for many years and he never even mentioned it! It made me very anxious, but it made me trust him so much more. I was so proud of him. When he finally told me he loved me I felt like I had "won" his love. It was so great and so genuine. - 2 months ago
i know what you mean an d I have guy friends who say they love there gfs to keep them happy even though there not actually in love with them I tell people I love them all the time but only the people I actually love and care about , I have never said I love you and not meant it as I would hate someone to tell me they love me when they didnt, now a days I don't think saying I love you counts for anything as words are trown around so much so I would say showing you love someone is more valuable but there's nothing like when someone looks you in the eyes and tells you he loves you and you can see in his eyes he does
I want to tell this guy that I have been very very good friends with that I love him. But I am very afraid to. He has said he fell for me & I was told...
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