First of, I'm super proud of him and I tell him that all the time. Second, I'm also very sad that I won't see him all the time like I do now, and worried about his safety. Third, I hear that when men go into the navy there are girls and then my jealousy kicks in every time I hear that. 4, When he comes back in four years he said that he wants to marry me, we've had our ups and downs already and we've even broken up and got back together, and I realize just recently that I think that he is the one, but what am I suppose to do? I told him yes already that I would love to marry him when he gets back and if we still feel the same way about each other and he agreed. So I only get to see him like a couple times cause his family wants to see him and I do, and his friends, but I don't know how to handle a situation like this when he leaves? HOW DOES ANY1?
You may not want to hear this but I'll answer honestly. At 19 you're still going to change as a person a bit over the next four years, presumably he will too. Going into college I was a very different person than when I got out, things I liked changed, things I did changed, things I enjoyed changed, social circles changed, etc. You're going to have to have one crazy-strong relationship to make this work, and the odds are heavily stacked against you, but it's not impossiple.
Life has no guarantees and in 4 years who knows. Best to wait to get married if that is what you want in 4 years. Better than him doing what you fear about guys in the service do, unmarried than for him to do it while you're married. Men just aren't predictable that way and they will circum to temptation. But you do have to rid yourself of that jealousy. It's such a wasteful emotion.
GOOD THING. UR PROUD OF HIM :) THAT 'S SUPPORTIVE! OF COURSE IT'S NATURAL TO BE SAD AND WONDER IF TI'S GOING TO WORK ESPECIALLY IF THINGS HAVE BEEN ROCKY ALREADY. :( BUT SWEETY REMEMBER THAT THERE'S GIRLS EVERYWHERE SO THAT SHOULDN'T SCARE U, IF HE WAS GOING TO DO SOMETHING HE PROBABLY WOULD HAVE DONE IT ALREADY. (TRUST IS THE MAGIC WORD) NOW You R STILL YOUNG AND 4 YRS IS QUITE A WHILE TO COMMIT TO SOMETHING SO PROMISING, NOW IF You BOTH REALLY DO WANT THIS TO HAPPEN COMMUNICATION IS KEY! :) You JUST HAVE T BE VERY SUPPORTIVE OF HIM AND WHEN HE COMES TO VISIT GIVE HIM SOME SPACE BECAUSE You R HIS G.F. AND HE HAS SO MUCH PREASURE IN DIVIDING HIS TIME BETWEEN HIS FAMILY, FRIENDS AND U. JUST KEEP IN MIND THAT HE CAN TAKE HIS FRUSTRATIONS ON U, SO JUST BE SUPPORTIVE AND SINCE You MAY BE HIS WIFE IN 4 YRS TRY AND BE PART OF HIS FAMILY WHAEN HE COMES GO TO HIS HOUSE AND THERE HE "KILLS 2 BIRDS W/ ONE STONE" ALSO WHEN HE'S GONE VISIT HIS FAMILY THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR You :) REMEMBER ALWAYS COMMUNICTE, AND TRUST IN EACHOTHER AND MAYBE THIS SEPERATION WILL BRING You TWO CLOSER ;)
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